Friendship...

Am i the only one that feels abandomed by their friends? So i have a lot of good friends like one friend, that we are together like 9 years. Now it feels like they barely text me first, and are using me as a "ghost friend". I dont wan't to sound selfish but now there was a week off. And i didn't even get a message from none of my friends to hangout, even tho they were asking about my weekend plans. Basicly they wanted to go ice scating but they did't even care about our plans.

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Gingerbreadspice · F

I have felt like this on and off my whole adult life. They still text me first but only about once every couple of months. Most of them now live 12 miles away as well. When I had a job, I had coworker friends who I made friends out of and we’d hang out sometimes. There was never a time where I didn’t find a new friend in a new coworker. Now I’m self employed I rely only on my home friends and these are the friends that are busy. I think that you’ll meet other friends in life but you might always struggle with these feelings of boredom and loneliness occasionally.

IamBack · 31-35, M

Al Capone once said, if I had a dollar in change, I’d rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies, just choose your friends wisely I guess and don’t feel bad for people walking out of your life, sometimes it’s for your own good

PoetryNEmotion · F

As you grow, your real friends change. That is why it is important to find those who support and care for you. Kids change from teenagers to young adults. Follow you interests and make new, closer friends.

Lolollolol · 18-21, F

Any help maybe or tips?

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@Lolollolol Let go of the mindset that they should always include you. And let go of the mindset that you need to be part of them to be happy.

If there's something you wanna do, don't be afraid to do it alone. Who knows? You might even find your own people.

You can't control how they treat you. At your age, you have time to spend together. But as you age, people would have other interests and priorities. That is life. You'd only end up hurt if you believe you can hang on to people.

The harsh truth is, people who wants to be there for you would be. You wouldn't have to ask or beg for it.

Lolollolol · 18-21, F

@Casheyane thank you for this. I love you please don't explode 🥹

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@Lolollolol Why would I explode haha? Typo?

nevergiveup · M

Its been like that all my life.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

Well you could've asked if you could join them.

Mudkip · 31-35, M

Ditch them and find better friends

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