pls I need advice

@Sadgirl101 yeah kids can be adorable.. I'm glad she has someone nice to take care of her.. but your sister needs a lecture on how to treat you better for all you do for her..

@SStarfish I wish in another universe she was probably a great sister …

@Sadgirl101 maybe she was a walrus 😅

@deathfairy I understand that but she is tormenting me and telling my mom all these things about me to get my mom to hate me .. I have never felt like this before especially when all I did was help and I get this in return it doesn’t make sense

@deathfairy and my mom being the toxic women she is, believes her and then starts talking bad about me and then starts talking bad about my sister to me so it all just doesn’t make sense and it’s killing me

@Sadgirl101 just continue being a good person and have faith, but try to protect yourself emotionally as much as possible while doing right by your niece. This is a crappy crappy situation. Sending big hugs.

@RedBaron sorry she DOES all the time belittle me and says I’m not a good person when I’m literally hand feeding her kid while she sits on her phone it’s driving me nuts

@REMsleep my mom is very 2 faced and I love her very much but she is super 2 faced and willl talk bad about my sister to me and if whenever I’m upset about how my sister isn’t treating me fairly because everytime I say I help alot with ur daughter she just says she basically raised me but she didn’t ? She’s never actually been there for me realistically never actually took care of me. My sister has givin me rides when I couldn’t drive yes. But that’s all she says everytime I try to say anything she says she’s done so much for me ? But she really hasn’t which I can’t comprehend!!

@Sadgirl101 You definitely need distance to heal and be at peace. Set some boundaries.
Only answer her calls when you have time such as don't answer her calls while you work or anything.
Don't waffle on doing things for her. Let your yes be yes and no be no.
Don't interact with her so much.
That's my advice. She probably won't change.
Typical selfish gaslighting behavior.
Sorry for your niece.

@Casheyane thank you so much but what if I already went through it and no matter what I think my sister will always be toxic even when I help and I feel like no matter what I love my niece so much I have to tolerate her nasty attitude but the only thing that wrecks me is that she manipulates my family n friends and it makes them question me…it’s all so exhausting

@Sadgirl101 If they are really true family and friends, they should know both of you better and scold her for it.
If they see it as bad and they let it pass, then that is called enabling.

You can do the hard choice and save yourself. Be there for your niece on occasions. But for now, it might be better if you step away for a bit.

Reality is you have your life and it's your choice whether to stay or go. You cannot change people, but you can choose which people surrounds you. You can choose to change your environment and yourself.

Make the choice and follow through. Whatever you choose, you should know that no one deserves to be a doormat. You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate. You might as well set boundaries and limit their access to you. It would be good for your mental health in the long term.

But again, only you would know what would help you breathe easier. Do what is best for you.

@Casheyane I just cried reading this … thank YOU soo so much your reply has made me feel alittle
Better today I appreciate your time and reply to me and listening …. But yes you’re very right I need to teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate is correct