pls I need advice

What does it mean when all you ever did was help your sister who is a single mom and all she doesn't is belittle you and tell your other family members that you're a bad person and bad aunty and I should watch her child For free if I was a good sister ? I don't get it I have been caring for her daughter for 3 years and she will Alwyas have this hate towards me for no reason cos we don't get along

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REMsleep · 41-45, F

Your comment doesn't have much detail but she sounds selfish.
This is common from toxic people.
Who knows what her problem really is. You know her upbringing. Was she spoiled as a child?
Did your family show favoritism towards you or her?
You aren't responsible for her child and you have to be strong and not let lies bother you.
Does your family actually believe what she says? Is so why??
You may need to distance yourself a bit more from her.

Sadgirl101 · 26-30, F

@REMsleep my mom is very 2 faced and I love her very much but she is super 2 faced and willl talk bad about my sister to me and if whenever I’m upset about how my sister isn’t treating me fairly because everytime I say I help alot with ur daughter she just says she basically raised me but she didn’t ? She’s never actually been there for me realistically never actually took care of me. My sister has givin me rides when I couldn’t drive yes. But that’s all she says everytime I try to say anything she says she’s done so much for me ? But she really hasn’t which I can’t comprehend!!

REMsleep · 41-45, F

@Sadgirl101 You definitely need distance to heal and be at peace. Set some boundaries.
Only answer her calls when you have time such as don't answer her calls while you work or anything.
Don't waffle on doing things for her. Let your yes be yes and no be no.
Don't interact with her so much.
That's my advice. She probably won't change.
Typical selfish gaslighting behavior.
Sorry for your niece.