Would you be upset or let it go? A friend called this afternoon and asked to borrow my truck to...

SethGreene531 · M Best Comment

I've experienced similar situations with faithful friends of years.
In the moment, you feel annoyed and compelled to call them out.

But there's a lot to be said for generosity of spirit.

In the grand scheme of things, it's not worth it.
Especially for someone whose been so generous to you, with his time and care.

Forget about it.

carpediem · 61-69, M

Let it go. We’re talking $40 here and not worth the aggravation. You let them use it because they’re friends helping a friend, not to get a tank of gas. Aggravating? Yes. But what isn’t these days? You did something very neighborly and that in itself is a reward.

LadyGrace · 70-79

It's the principle of it, and respect. If he's not going to keep his word, then he shouldn't say he will. That's taking advantage. And he knows that. Unless he's just inconsiderate by nature. He has shown that he is not trustworthy. I don't believe I would trust him again, after failing to keep his word, so many times. If it was an emergency, then that would be a different thing, but other than that, no, I would not be prone to allow this to keep happening. He knows what you expect and he knows your boundaries, yet he had not enough respect to do as he said he would do and keeps crossing your boundaries. Maybe he'll get the hint when your truck is not always readily available. Some people just need to be taught a lesson. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

4meAndyou · F

I think your heart was in the right place when you loaned your friend your truck. I think that you are just hurt that he didn't keep his promise to you in return, but don't allow that to negate your original beautiful and generous impulse.

Gibbon · 70-79, M

After that history I would become a bit snarky. When he said he would return it with a full tank I would say "Oh like you always do. I'm not holding my breath."

MarbleMarvel

It seems like you kinda trade off favors for each other. I guess you have to decide if your friendship is fair. I do understand the irritation of people saying something and not following through. Does he do that in other ways?

OldBrit · 61-69, M

Let it go would have to be my motto. But I see why you resent this. It's the not fulfilling the commitment that would annoy me.

DrWatson · 70-79, M

You can point out to him, in a non-angry way, that he has repeatedly made this promise and failed to live up to it.

And then you can let it go.

You don't have to harbor resentment, but you would actually be doing him a favor by inviting him to reflect on his own behavior. And if he experienced your doing so without your getting angry, that would be a great witness to him about what that men's Bible Study is all about.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

I'd ask politely once.
Something like "thanks for returning truck,since it takes $60 to fill truck I was wondering if you could send (whatever amount)"
I suppose everyone's stressed out down there and you might just might have not have been thinking very well

stound

itd annoy me, but id try to mostly let it go. hard to know what all is going on with people. certainly lets you know that you cant really rely on his promises and sometimes for the right circumstances, knowing that is worth a whole lot more than $60 or so.

eyeno · M

Just me, I hold people to their word friend or not.
If your not going to do what you've said than dont say it.

Seems they've done and said this one too many times.
I'd be purturbed and would never let the truck out again.