am i wrong for being upset over this??

the guy i had vented abt before came back to me, we were doing really good these last 12 almost 14 days (two weeks) n js today he told me that 4 days ago he accidentally kissed his new female friend. so i had asked him if he could stop being friends with her, bc accidental or not it’s still a kiss?? u shouldn’t stay friends with someone that u kissed while ur dating someone. idk if that’s wrong to think bc he said it was an accident. he told me im being dramatic n he’s not gonna get rid of a good friend he made, that im being stupid for wanting her gone n “i dont wanna see him happy” bc apparently me not wanting him to be friends with ONE person bc they kissed by accident is me not wanting him to have any friends at all. i feel like im spiraling n i haven’t stopped crying over it. i love him so much. i don’t even care abt the kiss anymore i js dont wanna feel crazy for wanting them to stop being friends bc i dont wanna end up losing him to yet ANOTHER person. what if he leaves me for her man. i’m js scared. js idk what to do.

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MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Yes, you are wrong and you earn this week's 📢High Maintenance Alert.

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul keep that same energy when ur gf “accidentally” kisses someone or wife at that

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@bowchow I think we can agree that's a bit different scenario. Besides, if my gf "innocently" and "accidently" kissed a guy at work I would be okay with it and be happy she told me. To me, that would mean we have a trusting relationship with good communication and neither she or I would fall into the classification of "high maintenance."

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul it’s not a different situation at all, same thing it’s all accidental right! gender roles don’t matter it’s wrong either way

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul he didn’t tell me till 4 days late, bc he knew it was wrong. n he said they kissed on the lips, so it wasn’t an innocent little kiss, n idk how you can accidentally kiss someone ON THE LIPS

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@bowchow Well... I mean... if you are not thinking about it... you know like say I... I mean he... was thinking of his gf.. I mean you... and he was just being friendly, but then... you know he gave an innocent and accidental kiss. I mean... okay it sounds a little bit of a stretch when you put it that way, but I can see how something like that could happen... you know, innocently.

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul being…..friendly….thinking….of me….or not…..kissing….another woman….is wrong….. i feel bad…for anyone…that dates……you….if this is……your mindset……on cheating……you have to be….a little….special needs……..

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@bowchow I'm just saying you don't need to get your panties in a twit just because of a little kiss that was mostly innocent. I just think you are overreacting. And, I think we deserve some credit for providing full disclosure. In case you don't know, that's what he did and that's what I would do. Try showing some appreciation.

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul i did appreciate him telling me. but him insulting me over the fact that i got upset? should i appreciate that too? i’m js saying he got mad bc i was upset over the fact they kissed. it’s an upsetting thing that happened n god forbid i’m only human n i get sad when my BOYFRIEND kisses another girl.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@bowchow Yeah, but it was an accident. It was innocent. And... it was an ACCIDENT. If it really meant anything to him, he never would have told you. So, yeah... it's kind of obnoxious that you are getting so upset over basically nothing. Can't we just forget about it and move on? I mean, it's done, it was a mistake. You basically have an apology. And, now it's over. It won't happen again, I'm sure. You should be happy.

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul genuinely feel horrible for anyone that dates you

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@bowchow Well, I would never date you so don't even ask. I think you are just trying to create drama instead of being thankful for guys like me and your bf.

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul guys that refuse to understand women’s feelings????? men that INVALIDATE being upset?? pass

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@bowchow Well, that wasn't my intention. I'm just trying to say we have your best interests at heart... and this is the thanks we get. It's kind of frustrating and hurtful, to be honest.

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul i don’t expect you to understand to a T how mine n his relationship is but. js from the inside out lending you an ear into what it’s like. he isn’t the best sometimes. i can admit im a sensitive person but he’s said things n done things worse than js a kiss, so for me to be upset over it. isn’t wrong.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@bowchow Well, I just wish you could be more forgiving, understanding, and appreciative instead of being so insulting, unforgiving, and self-absorbed. Maybe you need some relationship counseling. That could help you get over your anger.

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul i js explained smth to you n ur still not listening, ur actually so dense. n a waste of time to talk to

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MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@bowchow Yeah, I get it. I just don't know why you have to be THIS angry and unforgiving.

bowchow · 18-21, F

@MarkPaul if “you get it” you’d idk UNDERSTAND why i’m so upset with him

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

@bowchow Well, that part I don't understand. I have explained everything to you in a way YOU can understand you have nothing to be upset about. Instead, you choose drama over happiness. Maybe you don't want to be happy, I don't know. You really should be thanking him (and me) instead of choosing to be "so upset..."

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