should i let my parent borrow my money? pls answer me

should i let my parents borrow my money?

my mom is borrowing from me
sometimes she borrows almost all of my savings and she gives it back to me, but after borrowed from me it goes back to her because of she keeps asking me to lend her my money but sometimes if I don't lend my mom the money, she gets mad at me

Sometimes she doesnt ask my permission and, I don't want that kind of thing, she takes personal things without asking, we even had a fight because of that,
I know she will return the money I saved but I really don't want to borrow it

but yea until now she still doesn't understand that I don't want to lend it, so sometimes when she ask me again for the money im kinda forced to let her borrow it from me

now my aunt is borrowing
I told my aunt to borrow money from my mother
and then he replied "why? she has the money?"

it just makes me cry when I hear it, im so sick of their attitudes thats my money my father gave it me
and i dont my savings be touched

they will be angry if I don't lend it to them

i don't have a job im still a student yk
I don't know if I'm being selfish or spoiled with my parents pls tell me if I'm right or wrong in what I'm doing

I don't want to lend money
but I don't want to use my savings too😭
unless it's an emergency 😭

sorry my english grammar is killing me ik its little hard to read it but i hope u guys understand im bad at english

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in10RjFox · M

Don't just lend without a record. Ask them to give you in writing why they want to borrow and for what purpose and how do they plan to return it.

And say that you won't lend if you are not satisfied with the reason.

And also say that you have a future to worry about and you can't get to Future without savings.

Please wake up as the oldies are jealous of your money and just want to spend it on all their past dreams.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@in10RjFox yes good point just because they are her parents doesn’t mean she should not protect herself. She should get her own bank account which she had access to only. Because it seem they borrow money without asking or telling her. But it could be her age we do not know that .

in10RjFox · M

@updown2020 parents who don't earn start becoming like a child to their earning children, like how children demand money for some expenses or pocket money.

Parents being in a superior influential position just think that their children earn much beyond their needs and just want to take control of their excess. It's a beauty how they spin stories to draw money from children.

SJones48 · 41-45, M

It’s your money. Only let them borrow if they need it for something really important like food or gas money

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SJones48 · 41-45, M

@nyxnight Try to tell her how you feel. Tell her you want to save it

nyxnight · 16-17

@SJones48 i already told her
but instead she doesnt understand abt how i feel about it and she keeps arguing with me
and im left with no choice but to lend it to her😭

nyxnight · 16-17

and i dont want to have another fights again between me and my mother abt it😭

Penny · 46-50, F

thats not right in my opinion that they are asking to borrow your money. they should be giving you money as your parents. do you ever find out what the money they need is for? if its something important i would lend it to them because they are in need though. in th efuture try to hide your money so they dont know you have it lol.

nyxnight · 16-17

@Penny yea i should have done it sooner though and now she knows i have it
im so pretty honest to my mother because i want her to trust me that im not hiding anything😭😭😭

OlderSometimesWiser · F

Just curious where you’re getting money from if you don’t have a job. You said originally your mother didn’t know you had money so I’d imagine it’s not coming from relatives which she probably would have already known about.

nyxnight · 16-17

@OlderSometimesWiser my father is working abroad and he would sometimes send me allowance and whenever he gives me allowance i always keep the money and saving it

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@nyxnight Well, from what you’ve mentioned it sounds like you’re either gonna have to continue lending her money or learn how to stand up for yourself and live with her being mad about it.

Pfuzylogic · M

Don’t consider it lending but giving it. If you wouldn’t give the money to her you shouldn’t lend it to her.

updown2020 · 61-69, M

Well how old are you and do you have your own bank account?

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