How foolish of me

And i thought i was special. Me and my friend, we were friendly flirting and as I started getting a little bit jealous when he started doing the same to other people. I am touch starved, and i need attention, as im going through a pretty difficult time and only he knows every detail of it. There is this other friend who always obsesses over a person, and my besty fell into their trap. Now they speng time together more than ever. This obsessed friend only cares about him, and makes him random gifts but just for him.

And i really felt special when he friendly flirted with me, when he said I was pretty, when he texted me gm/gn. I just want someone, it doesnt have go be a romantic partner, just someone that will hug me, text me throughout the day, someone that can make me smile and blush. Now he does this with her.

And I am the person he trusts the most, still. He vents to me since im more mature than her. Ive helped him so much and I still do. But i guess thats all i am, judt a helper. A support, for people to use when they feel down, thats all i am. I care too much.

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anonymousventer · 13-15

i know that feeling! it has happened to me but with a slight difference, it feels like he chose the dumb girl over me although he still does the thing that gets me attached. i feel like im fighting for him and he sees me as a friend. and the girl is literally super jealous of me for some reason, shes always trying to bring me down when i talk to him about music and things we like. but since you're in a slightly different position, i would recommend asking him about the situation and telling him how you truly feel. you don't have to say that you need him all to yourself, just tell him that you can easily get attached and it's not easy to see him doing that, i guess. while he does have the freedom to make friendships, i believe that telling him would not discourage him from talking to any of you and maybe he would instead give you the attention you need. maybe he feels the same for the girl but is afraid to tell her! remember, it's noone's fault, not yours, not his, and if you guys happen to end up in a fight, remember that it's not you against him but you two against the problem. i really hope i could help!

iheartdeadpool · 18-21, F

@Natureman this exact situation happened to me, it hurt so much when i drop that man, he was just using me as like a stand in girlfriend almost but refused to give me the title, i stayed and let my feelings for him fester and grow while he just saw me as a good time. althought it hurt alot when i did drop him after about 3 months that was one of the best decisions i made, but i also get it might not be like that for yall and even if it was its hard to just drop people, wish you luck tho but you probably deserve someone genuinely interested in you and only you

Natureman · 61-69, M

@iheartdeadpool you have done the right thing, there is always someone out there who will truly love you for who you are, not his show peace

twistedrope · 26-30, M

You could ask "You wanna date?" Then if he's like "Yuh." The you'll be like "Cool. Tomorrow I'm free at 9. Pick me up, find a place for dinner."

If he say "Nah." Then you say "Oh well. Pretend I didn't ask." The chill out. Men shouldn't be so... Difficult about it. If he is then, probably a bad sign.

Bhs123 · 36-40, F

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