I hate being sensitive

There's nothing wrong with being sensitive. I'll pick a sensitive person over a heartless one any day.

Whoever told you to "grow up" doesn't know what they are talking about.

Being sensitive depends on a lot of things, including your general mood, emotional state and how triggering something is for you. It will change over time, but there will always be topics or situations that will make you cry more easily than others.

Let me tell you something; When I was a kid it was impossible to make me cry. Friends and family died, and tragedy and pain would constantly plague my childhood, but I didn't shed a single tear. I was raised to keep my emotions buried deep down, and this became problematic. I was a heartless, empty person.

This led to a very violent and unhealthy emotional breakdown in my later years that nearly destroyed me.

Nowadays it doesn't take a lot to make me cry. And I prefer it this way. It's a lot healthier.

Be thankful you have someone who cares enough to tell you the truth and good for you for not being defensive about it. Crying at the smallest things and all the time is not going to serve you well. The main solution involves not repressing your feelings, but learning how to moderate them.

You can be sensitive all you want. But, breaking down into crying fits is only going to make you vulnerable, pathetic (as your family member rightly advised), and socially shunned. It's exhausting having to calm down someone every other second, so most people will just avoid you.

You need a healthy dose of self-reflection. The next time you start crying, ask yourself why you are so upset. You will be surprised just how much you know as to the reason. You literally need to reason with yourself that crying is not an appropriate response, no more than an 18-21-year-old is having a temper tantrum when things don't go all your way. Over time, intervening in that way, will break the cycle of breaking out in tears.

And, be sure to thank your family member for giving you honest feedback. It could just end up being a lifesaver.

I almost cried an hour ago. It's easy to feel like crying, but difficult to give in to it. For me at least. But I was alone, and felt good knowing that I havent forgotten my love for Henry and Molly, my 2 rat terriers long since passed. I'll be with them soon enough. Dead like them I mean

@SleepyZ 🤔some people are like you they are gentle and are very sensitive you cannot how your nature makes you where you can be upset and show compassion for others woe and that is nice too see a understanding nature

Therapy is a good idea for finding that answer

sounds like you need to be tougher, what I would do is start at the root of your issues, when did you start crying so much? that is your answer.