I want to become a better adult but i dont know how

I dont know where to start with being a good adult. Today i bumped somebody's car while reversing, i was with a friend and we looked for the owner, luckily there was no damage but i feel that ive been driving for a while and shouldnt make such mistakes at this age. I make a lot of mistakes for a 25 year old.

I still live at home and feel that i would not survive on my own. I dont even know where to begin with being responsible fo myself .Sometimes i find it hard to even speak for myself, whether its at work or at a store.

I feel embarrassed because all my friends are good adults, they take care of what needs to be done and have plans for their futures and lives.
I feel stuck, i have a job, but no ambition or vision.

Im just living day by day, trying to avoid situatuons that would cause me stress. I even avoid going out of the house when i dont need to inorder to avoid making mistakes but i know thats no way to live considering i need to be out everyday.

Ive always felt like all i do is incorrect and i feel like ill never grow into who i want to be, i feel that ill be stuck as this awkward adult for the rest of my life and it scares me.

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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

As someone who has been 25, no you're not making a lot of mistakes. You think your friends are perfect? Think again. They just don't share their short comings or mistakes because insecure people feel a need to give others a image of someone perfect.

You admitting you have flaws, makes you more confident then people in denial.

Housing is expensive and not many 25 year olds have moved away from home for that reason. As long as you like it at home, there's no reason to rush out. By living at home you have a chance to save up some money to invest in your future.

Being 25 is not a magic age where everyone should just wake up and know who they are what they want and get everything they planned going over night. In my experience the age 25 is when we start reflect on life, which you are doing right here right now.

From my view point you are as normal as a 25 year old can be.

There's 25 year olds who has everything settled and decided from they're 10. They must then do everything to live up to that plan. And they always, always realize they are doing the opposite of what they want , and they regret rushing in to the future, they regret getting into a relationship so soon, they regret starting a career so soon, they regret getting married so soon they regret having kids so soon they regret their entire lives and wish they could start over. Some are brave enough to divorce their partners and do what they actually want. Some are stuck in their perfect picture life and behind screens, is someone absolutely miserable.
But they're too insecure to be true to themselves.

You are true to yourself. Hold on to that.

mayguy · 46-50, M

@Queendragonfly That's so much *truly outstanding* advice and the very reason SW is an amazing community. Thanks a'plenty for taking all the time to write that and share it with her (and us as well) 😁

SW-User

Hey, it’s okay. You make a lot of mistakes, and that’s how you learn. Don’t be so tough on yourself and keep trying. You haven’t figured out what you want to do with your life yet, but as long as you don’t give up you’ll find what your life is about.

jackrabbit10 · M

dont be in a hurry , you will be adult soon enough ,then you do you will wish you were still a kid,

Monalisaa1986 · 36-40, F

Don’t rush it and don’t force yourself to do anything unless it feels right to you

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