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nick030 · 31-35, M
This is relatable. I have been in the same situation. I have always been a listener but there came a point when I needed to block out the negativity to keep my sanity. Not saying that I do not want to help, but being the one to listen without getting a chance to share your own situation is mentally draining.
Casheyane · F
Be honest to avoid misunderstanding.
If she's a good friend, she'll understand.
Or if you must, lay it out. You're drained. You can't pour out of an empty tank.
I did the same. For years. Now, I chose not to speak with the main person who drained me. Sometimes I felt bad, but good riddance because I really found I liked freedom when I'm away with people/person who made me feel I have to pretend all the time.
Sometimes, you don't even do it to be fake. You do it cause you have things to do and you need to be in the mental space to do it so you put up a front. But people like that front, right? So they come to you, and you're forced to go along even if inside, you're desperate to be alone so you can drop the smile and the armour and just...just be.
Figure out how important or how real is that friend to you. Maybe you can be sad together. But if you really need to be alone, tell it.
The people who wants to hear you will hear you. The people who wants to take advantage of you...well, you'll know.
We all need someone sometimes. But sometimes, we just need to be alone for our own selves.
If she's a good friend, she'll understand.
Or if you must, lay it out. You're drained. You can't pour out of an empty tank.
I did the same. For years. Now, I chose not to speak with the main person who drained me. Sometimes I felt bad, but good riddance because I really found I liked freedom when I'm away with people/person who made me feel I have to pretend all the time.
Sometimes, you don't even do it to be fake. You do it cause you have things to do and you need to be in the mental space to do it so you put up a front. But people like that front, right? So they come to you, and you're forced to go along even if inside, you're desperate to be alone so you can drop the smile and the armour and just...just be.
Figure out how important or how real is that friend to you. Maybe you can be sad together. But if you really need to be alone, tell it.
The people who wants to hear you will hear you. The people who wants to take advantage of you...well, you'll know.
We all need someone sometimes. But sometimes, we just need to be alone for our own selves.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
People who are needy are exhausting.
They suck every good intention out of you and then stroll away as if having dumped their worries on another person has somehow lightened their conscience so they can go back to whatever they define as 'normal' before they start the whole build up process all over again.
You may need to be (polite) but firm !
[i]I hear what you're saying and i sympathize. You're dealing with some heavy stuff and it gets you down when you can't see a way forward. But YOU have to appreciate I'm neither a Therapist nor a Counsellor. You have to appreciate I don't know the answer to your troubles, much as i wish i did ! And everytime you come around expecting a creative response from me, i don't know what to tell you [/i]
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They suck every good intention out of you and then stroll away as if having dumped their worries on another person has somehow lightened their conscience so they can go back to whatever they define as 'normal' before they start the whole build up process all over again.
You may need to be (polite) but firm !
[i]I hear what you're saying and i sympathize. You're dealing with some heavy stuff and it gets you down when you can't see a way forward. But YOU have to appreciate I'm neither a Therapist nor a Counsellor. You have to appreciate I don't know the answer to your troubles, much as i wish i did ! And everytime you come around expecting a creative response from me, i don't know what to tell you [/i]
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looping · 18-21
how are your friends suppose to know you're struggling if you don't tell them. maybe they wouldn't burden you with their troubles if they simply understood that you're also going through your own stuff.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
In the state of emergency, you always need to put the oxygen mask on your face first, only then help the others.
originnone · 61-69, M
Why do you not feel like replying to her? just asking....
originnone · 61-69, M
@sawako mmm....no, I get it. I'm a depressed person myself and I know people have that feeling, so I try to leave them alone. Really, there isn't all that much to say. Maybe at some point when you're not as emotionally exhausted, tell her why...make sure you know how you care but were just exhausted yourself. That would mean a lot to me....
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Put on your own gas mask before helping others with their. It's in the flight first aid manual.
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