No freedom

If you have given up more control than makes you happy, take it back. I enjoy deferring to @MasterLee but we each have live in a way that fulfills us. Find your happiness, it is worth the hardships to get there.

You are the one allowing this. Don’t wait for freedom to be given to you, make the choice to take what freedoms you want

this is not a kind of life. This is ridiculous. You should LEAVE him as soon as possible. No man has permission to "allow" you to wear something or not wear something you like. Nobody has that kind of permission. Only you decide what YOU wear. I suggest you leaving him and never looking back at him. If you don't want to leave him then i'd suggest you talking to him ASAP.❣️

It is a serious red flag to leave! Me and my mrs have never said what each other have to wear. His threats of what he will do is blackmail to stay. Seek those who can support you. He needs to learn that behaviour is unacceptable. I suspect you may find yourself a lot happier as you wont be worrying about people pleasing him and you can be your own self.

{@letmego] it is not you are dealing with a control freak here you are a person in your own right and under no obligation to this guy . so you wear what you feel comfortable in and if he does not like the idea hard lines

He is a future abuser. Lose him fast. This a major red flag. Find a better bf. No one has the right to tell you what and when to wear anything. You are an adult woman. Geez. Ditch him.

Controlling, manipulative?. If these apply it'll only get worse, leave him to work through his issues and cut off contact afterwards.

I see this over and over

You have to get back your freedom first.
Looks like that bf of yours is control freak. It will be more trouble in future. Wait until he will ask all your pay check!!!

shouldn't be the case, is there anyone you can ask for help from ? You can't stay in this kind of relationship

I wouldn't tolerate that. I hope you're not financially dependent on him.

LEAVE unless you prefer such domination

Sounds like you gave him full control if that don’t make you happy you need to take control of what you want to control

I know there is always more to these. Simply can’t understand why people stay in these relationships. Hope it works for you.

So do you get to decide what he wears when he goes to work or for errands?

My advice is to run away, as fast and as far as possible

Do you ever tell him you want to wear something different

Based on your posts you need to get away from this bf as you call him

Seems to me it’s time for you to move on and forget him.🙂🙂

Not good at all