Sometimes people dont understand the point of venting.

Quite frustrating how often whenever you think you're in a safe place or with a safe person to vent about your depression or other struggles... They respond with either some version of "others have it worse" or copy paste advice like "Read a book, go to therapy, join a club, get a new hobby, get some excersize, eat healthier, make some friends..."

Like, yea I know. But I have depression and doing the things that make me feel better is so so so HARD to do.

What helps a tiny bit is venting without judgement. I already talk about my depression so rarely cuz I dont want to burden anyone with it. So theres a lot of buildup and after a while it gets real heavy.

When someone is venting, advice isnt what they're looking for. We're just wanting to let out some of what we've been bottling up, put into words what we are feeling. Thats it.

Just a bit of room to breathe.

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

It’s very true. At the same time, it’s important to check in with the other person if they have the bandwidth for that. A lot of times if someone starts giving you advice or trying to get you to change your self-perception in some way, like trying to fix you, it’s because they don’t have the physical, mental, or emotional availability to give the kind of support you need. by venting to people who can’t or won’t offer us the support we need we kind of set ourselves up for disappointment, frustration, and amplified feelings of aloneness/the depression.

MidnightZombieKitty · 31-35

@WhateverWorks That is true, which is why Im so select about who and where I vent. But I find, even on a site like this, where you can literally just ignore a post if you cant relate or whatever, people go onto peoples vent posts and do this. They didnt have to, its not helping anyone, they could have just scrolled past instead of spending the time and effort typing out some version of "get out of your comfort zone and go out and meet people, stop complaining cuz you could have had it much worse". Is all im saying

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah… the Internet is full of people who loveee to opinion dump. 🤗. In real life you could just punch them in the mouth for such dumbassery @MidnightZombieKitty

Morvoren · F

It’s people who won’t stop venting, and it saps the life out of everyone else present.

Like a woman I work with who needs to rant and be herself all the time. But if she doesn’t stop soon the rest of us will kill her and make it look like an accident.

MidnightZombieKitty · 31-35

@Morvoren That happens, yes, people like that are a thing. But if you read my post again, youll see thats not at all what im talking about here

iamelijah · 26-30, M

@Morvoren

Like a woman I work with who needs to rant and be herself all the time. But if she doesn’t stop soon the rest of us will kill her and make it look like an accident.

That'd be me. The one who rant. 😣

Gangstress · 41-45, F

I often wonder why people just dont listen without judgement.
Most people i know offer their judgement when i talk about depression or i get told how can you be depressed go hug your mrs.
People dont understand depression and if honest i dont talk to anyone anymore because of it.

iamelijah · 26-30, M

It's okay. You can vent it here. Although no words I could say to ease your heart but don't bottle up your feelings.

Or event better if you wanna use voice post. Let all angst left from your chest.

Spoiledbrat · F

Some people may not understand the need for venting when they might not vent much. They don't get it so don't understand the need for venting.

SW-User

Thank you for this. Im so sick of robotic automated replies from people.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

True.

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