Sometimes people dont understand the point of venting.

Quite frustrating how often whenever you think you're in a safe place or with a safe person to vent about your depression or other struggles... They respond with either some version of "others have it worse" or copy paste advice like "Read a book, go to therapy, join a club, get a new hobby, get some excersize, eat healthier, make some friends..."

Like, yea I know. But I have depression and doing the things that make me feel better is so so so HARD to do.

What helps a tiny bit is venting without judgement. I already talk about my depression so rarely cuz I dont want to burden anyone with it. So theres a lot of buildup and after a while it gets real heavy.

When someone is venting, advice isnt what they're looking for. We're just wanting to let out some of what we've been bottling up, put into words what we are feeling. Thats it.

Just a bit of room to breathe.

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

It’s very true. At the same time, it’s important to check in with the other person if they have the bandwidth for that. A lot of times if someone starts giving you advice or trying to get you to change your self-perception in some way, like trying to fix you, it’s because they don’t have the physical, mental, or emotional availability to give the kind of support you need. by venting to people who can’t or won’t offer us the support we need we kind of set ourselves up for disappointment, frustration, and amplified feelings of aloneness/the depression.

MidnightZombieKitty · 31-35

@WhateverWorks That is true, which is why Im so select about who and where I vent. But I find, even on a site like this, where you can literally just ignore a post if you cant relate or whatever, people go onto peoples vent posts and do this. They didnt have to, its not helping anyone, they could have just scrolled past instead of spending the time and effort typing out some version of "get out of your comfort zone and go out and meet people, stop complaining cuz you could have had it much worse". Is all im saying

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah… the Internet is full of people who loveee to opinion dump. 🤗. In real life you could just punch them in the mouth for such dumbassery @MidnightZombieKitty