So I don't think they have cared about me like I cared about them.

I love the person I was with briefly, but they never admit fault, and now they're contradicting themselves. I don't want to waste the energy cross-examining them, because I think it would only hurt them.
They accuse me of doing all these things, then turn around and do those things or have done those things in the past.
And I think they avoid that level of self-transparency because they hinge their value on their performance, and don't see themselves on a deeper level.
I don't blame them; I think it's from childhood trauma of being ignored or overlooked, unless they were doing something exceptional.

So they think they need to be that person all the time, and they're afraid to show weakness because they fear that blemish will necrophy the rest of their being.
I think they're seeking validation through unhealthy avenues and are not ready to come to terms with that level of self-transparency. And because of this, they're unable to take accountability for the jealousy or insecurity they create in their selfishness.
I'm not saying I'm the most perceptive person, but when I care I do tend to be analytical, even if I keep my realizations close to the chest.

I'm just trying to stick by them as a supportive friend now. I feel bad for them, but I don't think there's a way to help someone with that. I want them to feel valid, but I hate seeing their continued patterns of self-sabotage. At least it's made me wiser and more aware of the red flags to avoid when engaging in anything beyond commonplace civil interactions. I tried to enter a relationship with someone who wasn't assertive enough to communicate that it isn't what they want, and the lack of assertion has been a common theme. They seem to rely too heavily on aggression and avoidance, and seem to fear that being assertive will drive people away.

I think most people have a problem with being transparent rather than honest, because they fear hurting peoples' feelings.

Unfortunately, that is a part of life and dealing with other people. We wished they had the same heart and honesty about things as we do, but their personalities run shallow like a coral reef while we are deep water vessels.

Just find one that does care as much as you. It's possible. I did.

Hmmm it happens sometimes.. it’s good not to go overboard or be too invested in an unbalanced relationship .. 🤐

This is a common experience for many people.. Just because you love someone does not mean they will love you back..

That’s fine, it is painful but that’s life ❤‍🩹

Live and learn 💪🏻

The good things you do will be always in your account. It will help you in time. You don't think what others will do in return. It will diminish the value of your kindness and love.

I only have one close friend

Because we care for them when they don't need it . But don't care when they need it.

We want to be carefree and don't get it when we need it

It's better to be safe than sorry

It’s like that with everyone in my life, the reality is fucking painful every time