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I Am Having A Tough Time

I work in an office where 95% of my coworkers are females. Some are friendly but most are not. I have adopted the attitude on day one to keep away from office gossip or unnecessary drama. Believe me this choice is not me being intelligent, it derived from previous experiences at other companies. I go to work with the attitude to do my job, and not create close relations with anyone. Over the past few months my manager and I started bonding, it all started when she was promoted. She needed ideas and assistance on changing office processes. I was excited to help and I knew changes would be good not only for us as staff but also for better productivity. We worked hand in hand and slowly introduced the changes. I was proud of myself and I gladly accepted the praises from others, it felt good to help. As of late there has been some really disturbing issues arising with staff bickering and office gossip. Disciplinary hearings were held which brought immense hostility toward me. All of sudden coworkers assume that I've been taking things to management. I'm just not feeling comfortable any longer. I have tried to understand where their assumptions are arising from but I've failed. Why assume that I've been the one taking things to management just because I share a friendship with them? Over and above not being happy working there I feel hurt that I'm being accused of something I didn't do. I hate that my good intentions have now been thrown at my face. I wish life would give me a break sometimes. As soon as one storm ends another comes raging through.
76starships · 46-50, M
Sorry to see you've been caught up in office politics like that. It really brings out the worst in people.

Your best defense is to be yourself. If you chase the approval of the rest of the offfice, you'll never please them all and end up feeling worse for it.
76starships · 46-50, M
Changed for the better I hope?
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@76starships: Much better.
76starships · 46-50, M
@WiseGirl: excellent. Happy to hear that, makes work far less stressful.
firefall · 61-69, M
Unfortunately, a lot of people feel resentful when things change (unless they personally benefit noticeably), and look around for targets to lash out at. A co-worker who consorts with managers is a much safer target to attack than attacking the management.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
I've considered all angles, even tried to confront a few of them. But I just don't have the guts nor the ability to do it. I am a highly sensitive person. I don't want to resort to seeking employment elsewhere. I do hope this will pass.
firefall · 61-69, M
@WiseGirl: you cant talk them out of it, or argue out of it. But it normally does pass in a while, or diverts to a new target anyway.
ABQ1952NM · 70-79, M
Sounds like most of the females that work there are bitches. I never got along with bitches either, so you are not alone. Now that I am retired, the only person I have to put up with is myself and that is working out good...lol.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
I'm a woman myself I won't like degrading other females but in all honesty it might be the overload of estrogen causing such unpleasantness. I am just troubled that I am feeling so miserable.
ABQ1952NM · 70-79, M
@WiseGirl: Don't let those other females make you miserable. Keep your mind on your tasks and don't let their ignorance interfere with your life. You're a good person and that's what matters.
SW-User
Sounds like a bad culture. When things get bad, I keep doing my job well and keep good documentation of my work. Then I start looking at Indeed for jobs.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
Jobs are hard to come around. I was unemployed for nearly 2 years.
SW-User
@WiseGirl: just keep working hard. It sucks when work sucks though. Affects the rest of your life.

Good luck to you.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@Kindheartedguy: thank you.
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firefall · 61-69, M
and yet still surprisingly bumpy and potholed

 
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