Love deepens in times of pain. Yet there’s so many who try to avoid that. As a result they end up with no love for life.

@WhateverWorks Oh wow, you’re finally going to ask me what I actually meant instead of making more straw men to put words on my mouth? Why didn’t you start with that? Instead you accused me of shaming people. You haven’t respected me here because you assumed that I was being disrespectful. What reason do I now have to think you won’t keep acting this way no matter what I say? I’m not interested in conversing with personal agendas against me. That goes nowhere, so you know something? I can’t say I care to explain myself to you at all anymore. You can go ahead and continue to think whatever you like about me because at this point I couldn’t care less.

I never said anything about you personally. I didn’t disrespect you just because I disagree with your premise about love and loving somebody.

[quote]Does this mean you should willingly suffer those who make your life miserable? No, but it does mean you should willingly suffer them because it’s not miserable. If it is, then you’re one of the people avoiding and should tend to your own pain before minding anyone else’s.[/quote]

You state that if someone is doing something that hurts you to endure, so you don’t allow it to continue then the problem is that you’re an avoidant person and need to go work on yourself —because if you really love them then ?you’d be more resilient?
—the pain should be accepted as ‘part of loving someone’
—and to rebuke this idea is why people aren’t having successful relationships.

At any rate, I won’t bug you about discussing this topic anymore. I agree it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.

@Reject

@WhateverWorks Thank you.

@CookieCrumbs the pain is less one is "shared" and both people grow together. It's nice and special

@CookieCrumbs it's not true. In my situation people have started making fun of me.

@littlepuppywantanewlife If people have made fun of your pain, then I can tell you one thing. They do not love you. Here’s something to consider though. If that bothers you, then you don’t love yourself either. No one can be there for you except for you and until you are? You’ll try to make other people.

@deadteddy My love has never been reciprocated. Not once, and just as you said, they all walked away. However, my love for them hasn’t changed no matter how much pain is associated because I appreciate who they are. Not what they do for me.

@Reject Ikr , that’s the worst part for me

@deadteddy Even that part of you deserves love. I wish I could be the one to give it, but not me or anyone else can. Appreciating what’s done for you only works when you do it yourself. You might notice you’ve appreciated a great deal from people but also that it’s never been enough. That’s because it didn’t come from you.

@Kae20 Yes! You’re right. This is why you often see people like them saying life is pointless.

@Reject very much so. I mean even when you are following a Career or Purpse . Life makes more sense when there is a special someone to share the highs & low's .

We thrive in companionship 💏