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My aunt passed away suddenly yesterday

It's just over a year since my other aunt died(both on my mom's side). My mom was one of eleven, so unfortunately this will be playing out many more times. Sudden brain aneurysm. No warning. No chance to say goodbye. No nothing.

We're all shocked and it's just beginning to sink in. I thought I was going to be OK until I got to work today, then all of my body felt heavy and everything felt sore. Nothing was lifting me out of it. I even made a coworker laugh to the point of doubling over and spitting out his drink. That made me feel a bit better, but everything still HURT.

I asked to leave to grab a cup of coffee, and [i]then[/i] things felt better; I never had coffee be a mood lifter, but it was today--and I'm not asking questions.

I wasn't going to even mention it because I'm not particularly the type to list every setback. But this was a sucker punch. Unlike my aunt who passed in 2021, who was ill for an extended period of time and was given a short time in which to exist, that was not the case this time.

So, if I'm extra grouchy the next few days, this is why. It's funny how no two grief experiences are quite the same.

Think I'll just sit here and watch y'all be the crazy expert-level SWeeps you are. Love to all.
PhoenixPhailM
I'm sorry about your aunt. You can [i]always[/i] say goodbye, and whatever else you'd like to tell her. She's still here in Spirit. 馃檹
uncalled451-55, M
@PhoenixPhail Quite true.
Mamapolo2016F
It hurts, and it stirs up all kinds of internal personal thoughts. All of my aunts and uncles are gone, and many cousins.

I'm sorry. If there's any consolation to be had, while you were cheated of a goodbye, she was spared from suffering.
uncalled451-55, M
@Mamapolo2016 Very true. Down to 1 parent, 0 grandparents, still quite a few aunts, uncles and cousins.
Mamapolo2016F
@uncalled4 All my grandparents are (obviously) long gone, both of my parents, and two brothers and a sister.
Slade56-60, M
I'm so sorry. Sunday a friend from my 'hood died suddenly. Just sitting on his couch one second, gone the next. Far too young (64).

This one was a gut punch. A real good guy that never had an enemy in his life. A music encyclopedia - you would have liked him
Banksy8336-40, M
@Slade you have just honoured the guy
Slade56-60, M
@Banksy83 thanks, I meant to. He also was a sports encyclopedia. We're not to far apart in age so it was also nostalgic every time we met
Heartlander80-89, M
My condolence.

Our entire older generation has been gone for quite a few years now, as is half or my own generation.

My mom was likewise one of many; 9 of them (15 of them when including their spouses), and when the first one of them started having near-fatal circumstances, they started joking about how they would all soon start dropping like flies. When that time came, they did.

My favorite aunt spent her last few years living in a seniors-apartment/independent living community. A pretty active place which she loved. One night she played BINGO with a friend in the community room, then retired for the evening. The next morning that friend knocked on the door to join her for breakfast and there was no response. We "kids" joked that she just went to bed one night and woke up in heaven.
uncalled451-55, M
Thank you, everyone, for your kind words. It really does take the edge off a bit.
ChampagneOnIce51-55, F
I am so sorry. My mom is one of 10, and slowly her siblings are passing. It鈥檚 sad, and I feel for you.
aiyana22-25, F
So sorry for your loss. Please be patient and kind to yourself.
uncalled451-55, M
@aiyana Thank you.
AbbeyRhodeF
I'm so sorry for your shocking loss. Grieve however you have to, and be kind to yourself.
LunarOrbit56-60, M
Sorry for your loss.

Its never easy. Sorry
My condolences. May she rest in peace.
I鈥檓 so sorry. 馃槥
uncalled451-55, M
@bijouxbroussard Thank you.
NimbusM
My condolences.
Piper61-69, F
I've found that being sort of prepared only helps some with the shock, but not with the grief. I'm so sorry about your aunt, and the sorrow of all of you who loved her. 馃槥馃暞锔
So sorry for your loss and don鈥檛 worry about your mood鈥.

May she rest in Heaven鈥
smiler201256-60, M
{@uncalled4] my condolences to you and the family a very tragic time for you
therighttothink5056-60, M
my condolences to you and your entire family.
uncalled451-55, M
@therighttothink50 Thank you. sir!
Banksy8336-40, M
You just take it easy,sleep as much as you can .
I鈥檓 sorry about your aunt
DeluxedEdition26-30, F
i am so sorry for your loss. :(
BeachGirl4726-30, F
Im sorry for your loss. 馃檹馃檹馃檹
Nebula41-45, F
I'm so sorry
ronisme161-69, M
Stereoguy56-60, M
I am so sorry for your loss. 馃挃馃槩馃槩馃槩馃槩

 
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