This post may contain Mildly Adult content.
Mildly AdultSad
Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join SimilarWorlds for FREE »

I saw a man die today

It started like any other day.
The same morning routine followed by the drive to work.

2 minutes before my exit I saw what appeared to be a blanket fly up into the air.
But as it began it's descent I knew it was a man.

He was a motorcyclist who had just struck a deer.

I stopped and ran to the guy, arriving just as another man did.
A third man was walking towards us and I asked him to call 911.

The motorcyclist was lying on his side breathing into a puddle of his own blood.
The ripples of his breaths clearly visible.
His eyes were open, but he was unresponsive.

I stopped the other guy from moving him fearful of us doing more damage.
Within seconds a State police DOT guy arrived on the scene.
He must have been in the traffic to arrive so quickly.
I had my hand on the man's shoulder and was trying to use comfort phrases like "Hang in there" Help is coming"

A few minutes passed in a blur.
Then the officer asked us to return to our vehicles and move our cars to make room for emergency response.
I said I didn't want to go until the EMTs arrived.

The cop looked at me and said politely..., "Sir, he's dead. There's nothing you can do for him."
I looked back down and the ripples were gone.
Eyes still open. Pain written on his face.

I didn't know him.
But i'll never forget him.....
The last thing I noticed was his wedding ring.
This is gonna stick with me for a while I think...
This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »

Have you made an attempt to contact the man's family somehow?
HikingMan · 51-55, M
@swirlie I searched the web for a news clip but found nothing.
This has been an awful year for fatal crashes involving deer here in MA.
Over 30 crashes and at least 10 fatalities that I could find as of 2 days ago.
@HikingMan

Another way is to go right to the police department who patrol that highway and make them aware of your identity as being the first one to have arrived on the scene. The police may still be looking for witnesses to that crash, so your involvement now could be very timely. From there, the police might be able to direct you to an obituary source based on identification from their own accident records which could then enable you to leave a message to the family on the funeral home's online condolences option.

In that message to the family, explain your situation and leave your email address as your point of contact. As well, the Funeral Director at the funeral home may be able to suggest something more definitive.
HikingMan · 51-55, M
@swirlie It happened almost 50 miles from home. I probably won't look too hard into it.
I think talking to the family would probably make me feel worse about it all somehow.
I don't need much closure and I tend to deal with death and dying in too emotional a way.
Not sure I could deal with their grief and sadness in any productive way.

Thanks for the concern and advice though.
I appreciate it.

Rob
@HikingMan

Wow! That was a very classic self-denial response, Rob. If it was that easy to talk yourself out of taking action less than a week after it all happened, then why did you even submit your question-post from 4 days ago complaining that the experience would likely stay with you for a while? Are you now saying that you're over the event already?
HikingMan · 51-55, M
@swirlie I'm not denying anything.
Nor did I pose any questions or ask for anyone's advice.
Even as I do appreciate the kinder words said here about the subject.

More to your point..., I am not completely over it, and it will definitely stay with me as an event that I won't ever forget.

I'm not sure what you're trying to get at here, or what action you think might be considered necessary on my part ? I took action in the moment hoping to help. I couldn't. I doubt involving myself at this point will help me or anyone else.

I tend to use this site to post things I wouldn't normally place on my FB page or my stupid poetry. I don't think I've asked anyone here for anything. Least of all, some kind of sideways judgement made on my state of being.

Sorry if I disappoint you.
@HikingMan

I probably won't look too hard into it.
I think talking to the family would probably make me feel worse
I don't need much closure
Not sure I could deal with their grief and sadness
I'm not denying anything.
I'm not sure what you're trying to get at here,
I doubt involving myself at this point will help
I don't think I've asked anyone here for anything.
Sorry if I disappoint you.

This isn't about me, this is about you. Own it.
HikingMan · 51-55, M
@swirlie I have.
You're digging for water in a desert here....
Last place I'd go for mental health help is this place.

Enjoy your day and carry on.
I'll try to do the same.
@HikingMan

I can see that! Who can't see it though, is you!
HikingMan · 51-55, M
@swirlie Whatever you say Official Anonymous Physiatrist of SW....
Pfft...

You don't know me, and are just another of the endless parade of anonymous voices seeking to validate their online anonymity by assuming things about people you don't know based off a post on a random site....

Like I said...,
Pfft...
You've been very helpful here today.
Send yourself a gift.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@HikingMan Oh you are from MA? The man passed in MA? I heard not long ago someone hit a deer just a mile from me, Im in MA too. Frankly Im sure it was hard to avoid if that man on motorcycle was on a highway... but people on these side roads here just go too fast.
@HikingMan
You.. are just another of the endless parade of anonymous voices seeking to validate their online anonymity by assuming things about people you don't know based off a post on a random site....

How have I successfully validated my online anonymity from a post on a random site?

Which random site are you referring to?
HikingMan · 51-55, M
It's exchanges like this that keep me from replying to most people here.

Another lesson in the Devolution of EP....
@HikingMan

Whatever! The only contribution I've made to your question-post is to bring awareness to your truth, a truth which you appear to be hiding from for no apparent reason.
HikingMan · 51-55, M
@swirlie Which truth would that be ?

The one where you wrongly assume that I'm all torn up inside about all of it and need the help of an anonymous know-it-all with fixing myself ?

You simply assume too much.
@HikingMan

No, not really! I don't actually give a shit whether you're all torn up inside about that alleged incident or not. The truth I brought to you was your self-denial which of course you deny exists! You really are a piece of work, did you know that?
HikingMan · 51-55, M
@swirlie What exactly am I denying ?
You still haven't said that part.

You said other things though....
Things like: I gave up on it after a week so I shouldn't have posted this thread.

Which, I must say, is a very striking take coming from a person without a single post here.

You are a troll without merit or stature.
I fill my world with real people and this site and most of the users I encounter are much like you.
A ghostly representation of a real person.
Yet also like any other apparition..., you have no skin in this game or any other here.

Just an empty shell thinking you can saunter through a website that has people post their real life experiences sometimes. You take it as an opportunity to practice your psyco-babble bullshit, as if you're helping anyone.

I have seen it all upon the pages of EP and SW combined.
Your wax figure nature is easy to spot after a response or 2.

For the record, and not because I need to explain anything to your fake ass..., But, as I tend to be thorough in almost all of my chosen endeavors.....

I have not Given Up.
My soul is not recoiled or shrinking.
I need no closure.
I don't need to know who his wife or family were to keep me whole and sane.
I have not denied anything.
In fact, as you said I must, long after I had...., I've owned my part in this man's story.
When I've said I've had some sleepless nights, or that "I won't ever forget"...., well those are the scars that come from healed and healing wounds.

To watch, and to feel, and to live as a man passes before you...., A man twisted and torn up from the road where his dying breaths rippled across his own blood..., well My Dear...., that's the stuff nightmares are made of. The stuff real people encounter sometimes as they build up scars upon their souls.

I am a man that has walked roads and seen things that would crush a fake and pretending soul such as yours.

Go swim in the pond of a weaker mind, my small little fish. So unworthy of these wordly attentions I bestow upon you.

For you are naught to me. Nor shall you ever be.
Another worthless amusement upon a worthless drip of water in an endless desert.
Another fish in waters to deep too fathom.

I shall continue to post here.
As I see fit and about whatever it is I might have upon my mind.
Despite the ramblings of fake ass folk with their fake ass takes upon my state of mind, humanity, or heart.

Be well
Live happy
Die trying,
Rob

Now wander off and find another site user to pester.
I am officially bored with you.
HikingMan · 51-55, M
@swirlie Read what you will but leave me be or be forever blocked. Maybe your next account can get to me in whatever manner you're attempting here,
@HikingMan

Nice speech! A little goofy, but well intentioned nonetheless.

As for your story about you being witness to another man's death on the highway, it would appear to me by your extremely defensive posturing, that your story is actually a total fake... a complete hoax.

I do not believe that what you have written in your story has actually happened, but instead is your attempt to garner attention for your pitiful self on this website.

You may not know this, but there is a group in this website that is dedicated to fiction writing for those so inclined. Perhaps you should check it out! Perhaps cut and paste your original story there too!
This comment is hidden. Show Comment