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I miss her

We're still friends and talk when we get time, but sometimes I miss her as a partner. I get why we broke up, but she was genuinely amazing in every way and if not for distance, I could have seen myself maybe even marrying her one day. But it is what it is and I don't begrudge her for the breakup. Sometimes feelings can just be hard to shake, and this is very much a once in a while thing and not an everyday thing. Like I'm over it, but I don't know if I'll ever stop loving her. Does that even make sense?
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RunTheJulz · 46-50, F
I think I understand what you’re saying and feeling and by no means am I trying to be insensitive and unkind. My own experience with relationships has at least 2 relationships where I believe I felt similarly but I have found that for myself it’s best to remember the relationships fondly however not to remember them too often and most importantly to move on so that I don’t spoil any chances for amazing future relationships. I firmly believe that the best thing to do is to not look in the “rearview” mirror so much that you miss seeing “oncoming traffic”. I also have had to train myself in the mindset that “success is the best revenge” not that you are actually seeking any sort of revenge but that you simply take what you have learned into your next relationship(s). I think of how fortunate I was that I even had such amazing relationships with the people that I feel so incredibly grateful and blessed to have had in my life. I’m far from a hard hearted person but I do believe that if you don’t reset and refocus you can negatively impact your future in relationships. I wish for only the absolute best for you and I also believe that you should take the necessary steps and time to “mourn” and move on. I don’t think that it’s an easy feat but it is a necessary one. I wish well and hope that you have the opportunity for another amazing partnership. ☺😊
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
RunTheJulz · 46-50, F
@KiwiDan Hugs 🤗
Levenrack · 46-50, M
Is it actually cannot change or not willing to change? I felt the same way my first two serious relationships. There's only so much you can do, other than evolving or reinventing yourself.
It will get better. Just keep working on yourself in the meantime, particularly your mental health. Physical health is important too, it does ties into how your functioning mentally and as a whole. If you're struggling with certain aspects. Ask for help. There's no shame in trying to improve yourself and there is help. 🤗
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@Levenrack I'm not sure. Maybe both?
If you really love her that much can't you move to be together ?
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@SpiritSkye moving to NZ is prohibitively expensive, and I'm not sure moving to America is a good idea right now
Summer2025 · F
im sure she doesn't care about you or even think about you anymore in the least.
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@Summer2025 probably not. And that's ok. Sometimes I get pangs of these feelings, but don't expect them to be reciprocated. Just got to get through them
Elisbch · M
@Summer2025

I would say that's probably true... and typical.
Makes sense to me. How much further apart are you both ?
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@PiecingBabyFaceTogether opposite sides of the world
@KiwiDan Yea sounds hard. I been there.

 
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