How do you know if you made the right choice

I go down to basics.

Sometimes we get so lost in ideals and wants and expectations - we forget where qe are .....what we have.

Like, my base point is:
- i can walk
- i can talk
- i can look after myself
- i have a job
- i have a roof over my head, food in my stomach
- my health is ok.
- im safe from threat.

....all thsse are GOOD things. Not everyone has them all.
These are a great starting point.

I depend on no-one. I muddle through from one problem, issue, event, situation to the next.....and i come out ok.

There are so many things that could wreck this balance:
- sickness
- disabilty
- injury
- poverty
- loss of freedom
- violence or threat.....etc.

I have watched a friend 10 years younger than me lose EVERYTHING to MS: Her mind, her memory, her family, her job, her marriage, her kids, her functioning body.

Things like that make me realize shit could be so much worse.

Maybe compare yourself to others who have it worse?
Youll see where you can be grateful so much easier.
💜

Sometimes when we feel like something is missing, we create soothing fantasies about ways of getting or acquiring that thing. When you say that you wish you could go back and re-do things, what is it that you hope to acquire with this new life?

I think when we can analyze what we're missing, we can start to create room in our lives to fill that void with our future choices. The past is there to learn from, not to re-live or re-imagine. If you knew then what you know now, what would change?

Once we can isolate that thing that we seek, and to try to understand exactly why we are seeking it, we can begin making decisions and moving forward instead of feeling stuck

I just would tell myself that I made the best decisions based upon the time and the circumstances. There are no do overs. Never. So you learn to appreciate what you have and where you are. If you don't like that, then you can change it. That is a choice. What kind of a life do you want? Then work toward that. You are middle-aged. Time to grow up.

I wish I could go back and change many things. I figure that the choices I made were part of my life’s path and I suck it up and move forward. I just keep on going. I don’t let things get me down that I cannot change or have no control over. It’s Mindset

Of all the wrong decisions u made, there must've been some right ones, I'm sure. Don't be so hard on itself.

@Rogo1 any decision made is a personal one and sometimes it is the right one and sometimes the wrong one . when the latter you made a mistake and move on forward and use it as a marker too not make the same error twice

There are no certainties in life. I just hope for the best and keep going.

Instead of focusing on the past that can't be changed, look to the future. What do you want? How can you make it happen? Look to the past only to learn from your mistakes .. not to dwell on them.

Most of us if we are honest wish we had made a few different choices in our lives. If you could go back for a do over what changes would you make? What do you want different in your life?