Being Blunt Doesn’t Mean Having a Pure Heart 🌿

Some people take pride in calling themselves straightforward and blunt They say Iam honest, and I say whatever is in my heart

But if your honesty is breaking someone’s heart in front of others humiliating them or hurting their self-respect then that isn’t simply being straightforward

I’ve always believed that if something someone says or does hurts me, I would rather talk to them privately than embarrass or disrespect them in front of everyone. Because telling the truth is important, but the way you say it is even more important.

Saying everything that comes to your mind isn’t always a sign of honest

Sometimes, staying quiet, choosing the right moment, and being mindful of someone else’s feelings is what true humanity and kindness look like. 🤍

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Quimliqer · 70-79, MVIP

Very well stated!

DancingStarGoddess ·

A lot of people don't understand what tactful honesty is. They mistake it for "sugar coating" and that's NOT what it is. There is most definitely a way to say things to people so that your point is conveyed in the best way possible and completely understood without harming or offending. People who usually say "i'm blunt" are just saying it as an excuse to be a jerk and more often than not can't tolerate the same being done to them in return. We should put out the energy we want to receive in kind.

Ann99 · 41-45, F

@DancingStarGoddess Absolutely Tactful honesty isn’t about sugar coating or hiding the truth it’s about having enough emotional intelligence to know how to deliver the truth Being honest doesn’t require being harsh and being blunt isn’t a personality trait when it’s simply an excuse for being inconsiderate The real test is whether we can give the same honesty we expect from others with the same respect and grace.

ineedadrink · 56-60, M

I quite agree.

DrawntoaDistance · M

These are real words. Think before you speak. For more that 3 seconds. ❤

Ann99 · 41-45, F

@DrawntoaDistance Yeah exactly 🧡

Chern0bylplaygr0unds

I'm straight forward with tact

Rickichickie · 61-69, F

I agree wholeheartedly!

PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

This exactly. But I think it takes a lifetime to learn and some will never manage that.

Cinderellagirl · F

So true, some people think it's big to act like that, but I find it shallow at times

4meAndyou · F

Being KIND is of paramount importance. ALWAYS TRY to think of other people's feelings FIRST... before you speak.

THAT is what I learned when growing up with a parent who NEVER thought of my feelings.

These days, I call it "being diplomatic".

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