For most of your life (childhood included) have you been

Oh the comforter easily.

I think that's what happens when you're the oldest sibling in a dysfunctional family and it's a role you carry with you

I have definitely been the comforter, the first to offer to help. Unfortunately this has not worked out for me, because then people tend to use you.

Childhood I was the person being comforted. As an adult I’m the one doing the comforting.

I’m exhausted to being the one comforting everyone.

I'm not sure really I might have been both? Comforting some then being comforted by others..

The comforter, by far.
I desperately want to be comforted

The comforter. That is true of my wife and me.

Comforting others