The hardest thing is to follow my own advice.

Some relationships aren't clear in my life.
There are certain people towards whom I feel repelled but for whichever reasons, I've allowed them in my life. I have been holding these relationships in a light that I feel I no longer want to continue to be doing.
Feeling like they are humans who are doing a lot of work and deserve to be helped, but I am no longer willing to play this role. It is really difficult to do the separation within myself, it's really difficult.

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Bexsy

I have a tendency to hold onto people and not knowing when it's time I should stop putting so much effort into them. It's hard admitting you're only one trying. Thankfully I have a stronger connection that kinda makes the others ok to let go of and admit defeat

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

hardest thing is to follow my own advice.

I feel the same! It's so easy to analyse someone else's problems and come up with a neat solution but applying the same advice to myself rarely works!

being · 36-40, F

@ninalanyon it's just not easy but it's clear what I need to do. Since I've allowed my voice to speak, and tell me what I need, it's very clear. I am getting the messages from these friends and something inside screams "NO!" and I am still betraying myself through patience, time, understanding.
Whilst I know we don't make good combinations, for whatever the reasons, perhaps it's only resonance, but my whole being knows it and says no. And yet I'm trying to trick my mind into, "You should be more caring, these friends are good souls, etc etc"
It's not that they are not! it's that I am not fit with them. I don't owe them my presence. Yet it's so hard, whilst I've been there for them in the past, then they reach out and I'm like "I have no time".
It's not about my excuse, it's about how I feel, unable to cut the pulling of their energies. I feel like I want out, I want to be freer and somehow they keep me in a lower place....? It's not the people. It's my decisions !

basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M

You gotta think of yourself too.
You are deeply empathetic, and that's a beautiful thing. But there needs to be boundaries too, as some people unfortunately will take advantage of your kind nature.

Fallflower · 46-50, F

Empathy really makes it hard to do things that seem mean! But they say you gotta take care of you first.

being · 36-40, F

@Fallflower it's a case of what you are describing... I need to figure how to do it.

Ghostinthemachine · M

Let them go, if they aren’t allowing you to enjoy life and live it in the positive way that you want to

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Ghostinthemachine · M

@being you are very compassionate and self aware, don’t let these two noble traits entangle you too much

Be well, my friend

being · 36-40, F

@Ghostinthemachine thank you. All is good <3

Ghostinthemachine · M

@being Good.

I know you will figure it out, and will be fine

deathfairy ·

i rly like this.

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