The hardest thing is to follow my own advice.

Some relationships aren't clear in my life.
There are certain people towards whom I feel repelled but for whichever reasons, I've allowed them in my life. I have been holding these relationships in a light that I feel I no longer want to continue to be doing.
Feeling like they are humans who are doing a lot of work and deserve to be helped, but I am no longer willing to play this role. It is really difficult to do the separation within myself, it's really difficult.

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ninalanyon · 61-69, T

hardest thing is to follow my own advice.

I feel the same! It's so easy to analyse someone else's problems and come up with a neat solution but applying the same advice to myself rarely works!

being · 36-40, F

@ninalanyon it's just not easy but it's clear what I need to do. Since I've allowed my voice to speak, and tell me what I need, it's very clear. I am getting the messages from these friends and something inside screams "NO!" and I am still betraying myself through patience, time, understanding.
Whilst I know we don't make good combinations, for whatever the reasons, perhaps it's only resonance, but my whole being knows it and says no. And yet I'm trying to trick my mind into, "You should be more caring, these friends are good souls, etc etc"
It's not that they are not! it's that I am not fit with them. I don't owe them my presence. Yet it's so hard, whilst I've been there for them in the past, then they reach out and I'm like "I have no time".
It's not about my excuse, it's about how I feel, unable to cut the pulling of their energies. I feel like I want out, I want to be freer and somehow they keep me in a lower place....? It's not the people. It's my decisions !