Could a person ever wanna control one

We shouldn’t control anyone, accept them for who they are and the choices they make.

We all express ourselves differently, we do things differently. We shouldn’t put that pressure on people to do things how we expect them.

Say a controlling parent, you’ll only push them away, you need to give them the freedom to learn and make mistakes.

We can control people because we expect them to do it our way, our way isn’t their way, we are all our own unique self, I know someone that is very controlling, she’s created a lot of negativity in her life, kids and her marriage,, she’s completely the opposite from her husband but she expects him to be like her, he’s not and this creates so many issues, she nags him constantly to be like her, do things her way, she can’t see how toxic that is, she wants things done yesterday because she does things right away, he’s slower and takes his time, this frustrates her.

I did try tell her once but she got defensive and upset with me 😬

I've had submissives... it's not always a case of "I want my submissive to behave in *this* manner". You always have to work in the best interests of the submissive.

Most of my work was identifying what was best for them and implementing my changes to guide them down that path. For example:- a submissive presents only eating once every other day, you work with them to get their eating back up and guide them towards getting the medical help they definitely need to make sure they're not malnourished and are able to progress towards maintaining healthy eating habits like a balanced diet and eating three meals a day.

I've also had a mother... a mother who (among other things) felt that it was acceptable to sexually abuse her children by exposing them to sexual material before they were even ten years old - so your argument that mothers don't possibly harm their children is misguided and enabling at best.

I had to take control of my wife while she went through an illness and the associated mental health issues.

But the goal was always to help her heal and feel like herself, and stand in her own two feet again. And we’re mostly there.

Exactly because it is expressing "i would like for them to behave so and so" instead of letting them be themselves and make their own choices.

It is still yes pretty bad.
Other people aren't your property.
Their rights end and yours, your rights end at there's. People have a right to autonomy.

If you mean BDSM, that's another subject entirely.

Yes. To guide them and teach them

Sounds like you are being controlled.

I want to control people but in a consenting matter with safe words established

Think of grating a block of cheese. Push it into the grater too hard and it will fall apart.

Yes there are people that would want to control you especially if your a sub

It is trying to usurp someone else's control over themselves.
Sort of mini-Fascism.