Could a person ever wanna control one

for non bad or insidious reasons? Like think of mothers, they control their kids, but couldnt possibly wanna harm them. But how is it in the adult world?
Or think of relationships? Why wanting to control is always unequivocably considered bad, even abusive? Isnt it merely expressing i would like for them to behave so and so

from my personal experience, anytime a person tried to control me they always turn out to be abusive or there was sinister motives. the trend is unfailing

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Achelois · F

We shouldn’t control anyone, accept them for who they are and the choices they make.

We all express ourselves differently, we do things differently. We shouldn’t put that pressure on people to do things how we expect them.

Say a controlling parent, you’ll only push them away, you need to give them the freedom to learn and make mistakes.

We can control people because we expect them to do it our way, our way isn’t their way, we are all our own unique self, I know someone that is very controlling, she’s created a lot of negativity in her life, kids and her marriage,, she’s completely the opposite from her husband but she expects him to be like her, he’s not and this creates so many issues, she nags him constantly to be like her, do things her way, she can’t see how toxic that is, she wants things done yesterday because she does things right away, he’s slower and takes his time, this frustrates her.

I did try tell her once but she got defensive and upset with me 😬