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LaLa81 · 41-45, FVIP
Find out what YOUR underlying goal is, not what society says it should be. And then tailor your efforts toward fulfilling that goal. Don’t put too much stock in what you’re “supposed to” have achieved by a certain age.

Well there is always that you have a 15 year old daughter so she’s nearly grown up and also that you have kids so there is no rush to have a child before perimenopause. You’ll life is your own and you still have time to start a new career, travel, buy a house and do whatever you want. You’re still relatively young. I’ve never achieved anything big but I did start a new career at 36/37 years old.
RedBaron · M
@Gingerbreadspice No 15yo child is “nearly grown up” with high school and college ahead.
@RedBaron At around 18 some go off to college or university and they will be home briefly during those study years. That’s the time when parents can have fun if they don’t have other little ones to take care of. Not all go away to study though.
RedBaron · M
@Gingerbreadspice You should know from experience that college is essentially the kindergarten of adulthood and that students are basically still children.
Crusher69 · 61-69, M
You are going to get a lot of opinions here!!! Its common for jobs to become "sticky" and we run the risk of getting into a position of inertia. Looking after the kids is always a priority and its a challenge balancing that with working out your career direction. But it always seems impossible until you get on and work it out. Get some advice from trusted sources and work out what you are passionate about. As they say - there is no perfect job, until you make it so. Good luck!
Beautywithin · 36-40, F
I feel pretty much the same as you. I'm 40 next year, been doing the same job for years i worked so hard for it, its the reason i stay. My heart tells me there is more out there? But what? I've no idea. Maybe we just need to find ourselves again.
Bittersweet84 · 36-40, F
@Beautywithin This is what I actually feel right now. I feel like I'm stuck in this retail job and no matter how hard I try to apply for office jobs (my expertise is actually in administration and commerce) but no company would even try to give me an interview, despite the fact that I have over 10 years of experience in this particular field. I've also noticed, that ever since I started this job in the retail industry, companies don't bother checking my CV properly. It's extremely frustrating.😏😢
AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F
All you can do is take things one day at a time. If you are not satisfied with work, find something else. Take some online classes if you need to. Sometimes as parents we can be our own worse enemies. Teenagers are moody. Its hormones, my daughters are 19 and 22 both in college, it wasnt easy but i never gave up. Ive worked shitty jobs before and at the same time i took classes to get where to where i need to be. I save every dime so i dont have to worry about struggling. Spend more time with and get down to the core problem of whats going on with her, shes not a baby, she has a voice. Doing nothing with get you absolutely no where. If i had to work at McDonald's right now to get the bills paid i would do it, because thats how much i love them.
I'm also 40 and feeling lost.

The state of humanity/society is a big factor in that. I try to see it as a challenge to grow and adapt, to figure out new meanings of success and happiness.

Because truth is, life kinda sucks, it's not always what you make it. But it's definitely not a lost cause. Hugs 🫂
Gangstress · 41-45, F
Shes 15. Look after her. Nurtue her. And comfort her. Youll find resolution that way.
You have to compromise your feelings right now as hard as it is.
Daughter first. The rest will fall into place.
Pambie · 22-25, F
Focus on helping your troubled 15 year old daughter. She needs you right now. Now is not the time to indulge in an existential, mid-life, or any other kind of crisis.
Gangstress · 41-45, F
@Pambie absolutely this.

Priority is her daughter.
Northwest · M
What kind of a job would satisfy you? Are you qualified for it? You can't help your daughter if you're stuck in a rut.
ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M
What happy & support does hubby give !
Convivial · 26-30, F
Self worth comes from within... That way no one can take it from you 🤗
eMortal · M
Get new skills then look for a different Job.
YoMomma ·
Can you get a different job or self worth elsewhere?
Sounds like the onset of a mid-life crisis.
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
I feel somewhat the same in my 30s
tenente · 100+, M
find comfort soon

 
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