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Have you ever

Felt so broken hearted it hurt to breathe or move. Everything you do is a colossal effort and every reminder of your loss brings crippling shudders and sobs. I wonder if this is just what life is going to be and I will never feel whole again.
Absolutely!!!! Oh I was just crushed and crippled until I realized I was only mourning what I thought I had in the relationship, not what I actually had. Tell yourself the truth and it will set you free. That's the way you get your head out of these situations and PTSD. You definitely will feel better and have a hopeful and bright and happy future. It took me a year and 2 months to get my head together because of the abuse, but when I did and realized what I told you about, I was free and I started getting better and doing just one thing each day and work my way up. You'll be okay honey. You'll be whole again. But it does take work on your part. By working on yourself, you are undoing the victimizing part. You have to make up your mind that you will not stay victimized. ❤🙏🤗
WillaKissing · 56-60
Yes, I have. It was not my divorce that I was happy to be done and competed. But being an Army veteran/retiree that my son followed into the Army at nearly 18 years of age that when he was 21 years old ended up committing suicide (Only God knows why, I do not) then three days post his death/funeral where I gave his eulogy it all hit me because the shock was gone, and the remorse and loss set in. It took three years to seek counseling and once I did so at my veteran's hospital, then I did begin to learn how to cope with his death.

For me it was learning to come to grips with his death and how to cope with it, but it still hurts terribly, and I will never lose the hurt.

So, counseling and trying to learn how to cope with tragedy whatever it may be coupled with time will at least allow you to continue with your life. I cannot say unchanged/ back to normal just differently and learning how to cope with the hurt/loss.
AlittleBitGenX · 46-50, F
@WillaKissing thank you so much for your heartfelt reply. My loss could never measure up to the loss of a child and I am so incredibly sorry for your pain. Thank you also for giving me hope.
WillaKissing · 56-60
@AlittleBitGenX Thank you for being kind in your reply, and all I can do is pray you find a way to cope with your loss as well.
olderuncle944 · 70-79, M
I was going tp leave my wife for some i was deeply in love with but couldn't for at least a month because oldest son had back surgery and him and his 3 lids had to stay at our hose she se met some and a 3 months later moved in with him and year and a half they married to me almost 5 years to recover but i did. Now im a lot more careful getting close to any one again not that i wouldn't, but i i guard my heart a lot closer
smiler2012 · 56-60
@AlittleBitGenX 🤔i felt like that in 2014 when my father passed unexpected took me a good few months too get back too my old self i was absolutely heartbroken
olderuncle944 · 70-79, M
Yes in time you will recover ,its not easy and you want to give up but cant I lost a woman i fell in love with and wanted to divorce wife and marry her we had made plans sadly my oldest son got sick and moved i colden't go see her very often and she told me we were thru .I took almost 5 years to get over her but i did and am happy again with many good memories .
Tumbleweed · F
Yes ma'am I have felt that. Excuse me for asking but is this from a break up or a death? Break ups are oh, so easy to over come. A death is not and some people never recover from that sort of loss. I wish I had better answers for you. Im sorry 🥺🫂
A true loss feels like that...but it shows how important the relationship was to you.

The best way to move on is to choose some of the best of that other person, etc., and try to incorporate it into your life...as a living tribute.
3Dogmatic · 46-50, M
Been there. It will never be the same again, but when something that is broken heals, it will be stronger. It just takes time and lots of alcohol.
luckranger71 · 51-55, M
Yes absolutely. I know it doesn’t feel this way right now, but life won’t always feel this way. Sorry you’re going through this.
Heartlander · 80-89, M
Yep. Sounds like grief to me. Losing someone whether by death or not is like a punch in the guts.
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
I just ended up completely single because I slept in
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
Yes. And it's because of another person

 
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