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My brother just assaulted me. Idk what to do right now.

Besides hitting me, he bit my arm pretty bad. Fortunately I was wearing long sleeves otherwise his teeth would've punctured my skin worse than it already has. We're in a small town 30 mins away from home because I had to cart him around to interviews, and whatever else at his beck and call. Had an argument that he kept egging on getting incredibly personal about, and I threatened to drop him off unless he shuts his mouth, especially since I'm out here doing him a favor. Then he snapped. Some lady almost called 911 but asked me first. I told her no, of course because my parents wouldn't take kindly to me getting him arrested. Idk what to do he's acting like nothing happened and he wants to carry on to go hang out with his friend around here. I just want to go home, pack my shit and leave for good.
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Luckylu · 61-69, F
I’m sorry you are living with this. You need to stop carrying the weight of everyone else, especially family. It is one thing if they were your children or were mentally or physically challenged and something all together different if they are not. Though they are family, they are not your responsibility. First responsibility is to yourself. Find a safe place to live. Find a way to provide for yourself so you can live apart from them. Put a plan in place and work towards it. Your brother acting the way he did was disrespectful, hurtful and damaging. It shows how little respect he has for himself as well. You not taking action, like dumping his ass on the street and leaving him there to find his own way, is tantamount to you showing him that he can do whatever he wants and you will do nothing to stop him. Do you want him to treat you as such? If no, then what are you going to do to show him that his actions are unacceptable? Only you can decide what you are willing to put up with and what you are not. If you do not have the means to live somewhere else, then you need to find a way to make where you are living, safe for you. That may mean pressing charges of assault on a family member. If you can’t do that, then find somewhere else to live and don’t tell them where because I have a feeling they would just follow you.
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@Luckylu true. I've left his ass on the side of the road before and I got grief for it. But when I threatened to do it again, he knew I wasn't b.s.ing and took it into his own hands. I'm not going to be an abused servant to my brother, so after today I'm forming a game plan to get out of here.
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F

God, it's bruised to hell. Glad I wore long sleeves. Fortunately, now I'm home but I don't know if I want to go in and have to get interrogated by my mother or be around my brother.
I'm guessing your brother has some sort of mental disability.
It might be helpful to seek counselling about how to deal with those sorts of situations - starting from when he starts "egging on".
The key would be to find a gentle way to calm him down before he escalates.
Perhaps by distraction with something he enjoys (music, talking book, games on his phone...),
or perhaps by encouraging him to want the interviews and look forward to them with hope or even a bit of excitement.
PS I hope you put some antiseptic on the bite.
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@hartfire nope. He's not mentally disabled. He's very intelligent but incredibly impulsive and spoiled. He's learned that to get what he wants he can manipulate the situation, even if that means harming someone else or himself.
SW-User
Can you leave for good?

How bad would it be after you called the police?
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@SW-User I wish I could. I mean if I did, I'm a survivalist, I know I'll be okay for the most part. But that's not how I want to end up here, besides that they'd put out a missing person if my parents believed I just walked off.
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
And idk if it could've escalated if he knew cops were coming.
NickyLee · 41-45
Name the town and share a description of him. I'll have a motivational conversation with him.
antonioioio · 70-79, M
You should have left that woman call 911
Theirs only one reason why a person will do a thing that, is when they thing, or know that they will get away with it, ♥️
How old is he?
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@RedGrizzly developmentally disabled?
smiler2012 · 61-69
@RedGrizzly 🤔out of curiosity how old is your brother i assume he is yonger than you then
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
smiler2012 · 61-69
@RedGrizzly sorry he needs to grow up then i thought he was about four
WolfGirlwh0r3 · 36-40, T
its easy drive him to his friends and leave!
Handfull1 · 61-69, F
It seems he has mental issues of some sort. If you say nothing and this gets worse, other family members could be at risk also. You could actually be saving your parents by opening up!
Handfull1 · 61-69, F
@RedGrizzly that is not acceptable behavior. He’s taking no responsibility for his own actions. Not beneficial to anyone involved.
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@Handfull1 yeah, that's my brother. :/ He was like that when he was little and he'd the same way now.
Handfull1 · 61-69, F
@RedGrizzly somewhere people enabled this behavior. He learned it worked. The cycle has to be broken or he could really be dangerous. I would talk to your parents unless they’ve always been in denial.
Your parents would be upset about you calling the police, even though he physically assaulted you ? Surely they’re not okay with that ? 🥺
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@bijouxbroussard idk. They've called the cops on him before because of his intense anger and hatred that's always accompanied with violence but never pressed charges. My mom bailed him out after a day and honestly he should've stayed in there.
SubstantialKick · 36-40, M
So you're taking the time out of your day to drive him around and stuff, and that's the thanks he gives you? I would just leave his ass and make him find a ride with someone else.
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@SubstantialKick we're of the same mind.
Thevy29 · 41-45, M
How old is this shit stain?
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@Thevy29 26. A grown adult.
SamInAZ · 41-45, M
You should have let him get arrested. He needs to learn there are consequences to his actions.
RedGrizzly · 26-30, F
@SamInAZ I normally agree with this. I just don't know how that would've gone if he knew he was going to get arrested. He was in the car with me.
SamInAZ · 41-45, M
@RedGrizzly sounds like he needs his little ass kicked.
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SamInAZ · 41-45, M
Kick him in the nuts the next chance you get.

 
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