I’ve no idea what I’m supposed to be doing with the second half of my life.

Im a guy in his early forties. I’m happily married. I don’t have children - my wife didn’t want any. I have an okay job and I own a modest home.

I used to have the best time with my friends. Three or four times a year the five of us would meet up in a nearby city, have a big meal, go to a casino and then party into the early hours if the next day. Big hangovers but great memories and humour. But as time goes in they’re drifting away, and too busy to catch up. I think those good times have slipped away for good.

I have no idea what to do to have fun and give myself something to look forward to. I can’t just sit in front of a tv, or do DIY, or play golf like other guys my age. I need something to do that gets me excited and gives me something to look forward to, and I’ve no idea where to go for that. I’m totally adrift.

Does this resonate with anyone? What did you do?

dancingtongue · 80-89, M

Only you can decide what excites you. The casinos are still there and the party opportunities probably as well, even if your long time friends have moved on. But their moving on probably indicates you all have reached an age where you have outgrown that sort of excitement.

When my wife and I reached that point in life, and the kids were old enough to take care of themselves and on their way to leaving the nest, we seized the opportunity to travel, experience other cultures. It opens your eyes to other things to try and get interested in.