Actions speak louder than words …. Do they really??

Communication is important, not everyone receives love the same. Nor does everyone give love the same.

People see what they want to see and sometimes their perception isn’t what is actually true no matter how much it seems that way. A lot of unnecessary misinformation and misunderstandings happen because of this and the lack of communication.

Just like we can all look at the same picture and see something different. Our world is abstract and we all see and experience life differently.


This is why communication, reassurance, listening and understanding come in. Not only does one need to be able to express how they see something, but also be able to listen and understand why and/or how the other might see things differently.

It doesn’t have to be an argument or fight just words, compassion, empathy, and understanding.

Some of both is probably ideal.
But actions mean more to me. Words are far too easy to roll off the tongue and can be deceptive. There has to be follow through in action.

Actions being... how they treat me and behave towards me in all situations, the affection they give, supporting, sharing activities and interests, the quality time they spend, all the little things they do.

People in the society are so messed up that whatever they see and hear/listen to, they judge based on their own convenience.

Hence, I don't feel the need to prove myself even an iota to just anyone - in any specific way.

*Just a response to the posted post.

Interesting perspective, though I'd rather have actions without words than words without actions. Also because I have difficulty trusting, I prefer words to be backed-up by actions that confirm them and don't deny them. When people say actions speak louder than words, the suggestion isn't usually that words are not necessary, but rather that words affirmed by actions count for more; at least so I have always thought.

In the context of social media and "relationships" online, often they are little more than words and this seems to make it a fun sport for players to toy with hearts, unfortunately. How many run when the actions that show the truth of their words are expected?

All the words my ex used came to mean nothing because they didn't match his actions. Words are meaningful until they are empty....
I appreciate genuine communication and strive to be a good communicator, but actions are more important.

To me body language isn't an action. People can have what seem to be genuine feelings through their body language and words yet still be total con artists.

I feel that the saying refers to how people actually treat you rather than anything else.

If I have to choose, I choose actions. I like "words of love, so soft and tender," but they can be accompanied by brutal physical, mental and emotional violence. "I wouldn't do this if I didn't love you."

Hmmm... Yes and no... In my life I see so many people talking about wanting to help with this or that.

Sometimes someone just needs to stop talking and begin helping. ❤️

🤗 I understand what you’re saying. I often wish for words. It’s tiring and fretful watching for actions that are supposed to be construed as some kind of care or hoping an action isn’t really the representative of such hurt as I think it is. But just as I stumble my way around numbers, I know words are slippery to some, scary to some. I think it’s just another place we need to bring our compassion, use our words. People are hard, and I can’t complain that I’m not getting words if I’m not simply asking for clarification on actions.

A WELL DONE is better than a well said

There's wisdom in both views, I think. Perhaps a combination of the two? Some people may say one thing and do something else

Yes, if the words don’t match, that’s all they are…. Words.

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Yes, I know a number of people who claim to be Christian and fail to even try to follow the teachings of Christ.

What about the Italians?

Yes they do. Sometimes it's very tormenting when people or colleagues at work are completely against you and you can just observe there actions.

In some cases words because people are very immature and very rude and speak badly so that is also hurtful. 😐

Excellent point.
When actions and words don’t match, then always believe the actions

In a best case scenario our actions match our words.

i think its true