If i put someone down as a reference, should i tell them? I really dont want to bc im...

Yes. If your CV shows the right qualifications and experience, they will definitely call her and check.
References are not a formality. They are needed because people lie and there needs to be a means of checking.
It would be wise to tell her no matter what you fear she might think.
Actually Kruger is right: "Never put someone down as a reference without getting their permission first. Also make sure that they will give you a good reference."

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

Never put someone down as a reference without getting their permission first. Also make sure that they will give you a good reference.

When I was hiring people, calling up references and having them either a) give someone a lukewarm reference at best or b) have no idea who I was talking about happened a lot more than I would have imagined.

MissTaken · 36-40, F

Yes you should and assume the potential employer will check 🙂

SW-User

It’s always good to ask them and let them know

PoetryNEmotion · F

It is common courtesy to notify that person. Imagine getting a call suddenly and trying to compose a practical, realistic reference spontaneously. Always ask permission first. I have refused to give references to people I cannot honestly vouch for.

BrewCityBarfly · M

Places that ask for references generally contact the references. Always get permission before using someone as a reference.

I personally think it's dumb because people don't put down a potential bad reference.

Morrowind · 26-30, M

Depends on the job you’re applying to imo. Some dumb jobs ask for references but don’t check.. retail fast food etc.. if it’s a professional job, then yes ask your reference

Funlov · M

Yeah, I was going to ask that person before you put them down as a reference that’s a good thing to do because they might not give it to you

Pretzel · 61-69, M

they often call your references
best to give them a heads up so they can come up with two or three points about you that they like

SW-User

I never called a reference. To me, the applicant wouldn't list anyone they didn't expect would sing their glorious praises anyway.

akindheart · 61-69, F

yes please ask before you add the person to make sure they say something nice. if you catch them off guard, who knows what they will say

LeopoldBloom · M

You should let them know do they’re not surprised. Some reference checks are fairly extensive.

Subsumedpat · 36-40, M

Should let them know so if they get a call they have a chance to think about what to say.

Emjay · 18-21, F

Absolutely. You don't want to lose the friend on top of the job.

meJess · F

Well the game can’t start if the referee doesn’t turn up

Fluffybull · F

You ASK someone before you give their name as a reference.