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I hate the concept of working. Now, that doesn't mean that I hate the idea of working hard and being productive, I would just rather do it on my own terms. I am going to be 36 years next month. I have lived with moderate OCD and anxiety, ADD, and Tourettes for my entire life. Working 40 hours a week, being tied down to someone else's timetable and working for someone's else's expectations and quotas can be depressing and soul crushing. The worst thing about working? Coworkers. I hate the idea of getting up, going to work and interacting with people who are, for the most part largely toxic and immature. I don't interact with these people outside of work, and I keep up the necessary facade of professionalism and courtesy because I have to work with them, but I have to wonder......is it absolutely necessary to be two-faced, gossipy, and back stabbing as adults? Again, I'm in my mid-30s......I hated, HATED that shit in high school and my tolerance for it as an adult is far less than it was in high school. On the clock, I don't care what problems or damages someone has, I don't care which coworkers hate each other nor do I care what reason they hate each other, I already don't want to be there eight hours a day, putting up with drama makes it more unbearable. I would love to be able to work part time and support myself and my family on that. Life is short and it shouldn't be wrong to want to enjoy it and spend time with those you love and want to be around and experiencing what life has to offer with them. I don't know what job would be good for me, but I know that I am not happy one bit with the daily grind.

What do you all think? Anybody else hate working?
SW-User
Yup. Very similar.

I love hardwork, getting my hands dirty and I love teamwork. But I hate working on a schedule. Not being able to exist naturally. It feels inhumane.

What I’ve done is try to be completely self sustaining. It feels a lot better.
CornstarchCrusader · 36-40, M
@SW-User It should be set up as a 50/50 balance. You work 50% of the time, you live life and enjoy it the other 50%.
SW-User
@CornstarchCrusader That’s completely achievable. A balance.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
I think humans naturally want to be busy.

I think what we are fed up with is being exploited by corporate fat cats and shady private business owners. We want to work for ourselves.
CornstarchCrusader · 36-40, M
@DearAmbellina2113 Absolutely, I don't hate working because I desire to be lazy. I just hate the nonsense and the drama. I do want to work for myself.
Busybee333 · 31-35, F
@DearAmbellina2113 @CornstarchCrusader : Future private business boss potential right here! Find your niche and start your business. It doesn't have to copy-paste others, make your own! First 5 years is pushing hard (but today, with internet, it might take you only a year of hard work and some luck to start your own). Then, you will have people working for you. And you can make your own shifts as you like OR hire a good manager and be an authority figure that checks in from time to time. 100% it all comes with a lot of responsibility. If you have a strong devotion to face high and low situations coolheadedly, you will succeed. Anyone can do this - it just takes courage+faith+active daily engagement to your cause to take the leap. Think hard of what do you want to do professionally. Create your profession and live your dream in this life. See? I know the pieces of a successful leader; though I am struggling with the faith-in self part. My closest ones often bring me down and that is why it is so hard for me to flourish. However, this same hardship is useful to me - I am training to withstand the winds. Today, it hurts; tomorrow, I get up stronger. Take the hits of life and use them to your advantage. It takes a lot of energy - but it is worth it. I work on that self-confidence part daily and I am seeing results. I expect that very soon, I will be confident enough to leap forward :) * do not feel pressured - time is relative. some are ready to follow their path at 8yo, others at 50. This is not a race, this is about knowing yourself, what is best for you and for your loved ones, and doing it from your heart. You are not content? Do something, and another thing and another - until you find what makes you fulfilled. Then keep doing that - that's your freedom right there. Wishing you to build your dreamed reality :)
ShadowWorker · 61-69, F
That is why , ..when i was younger...I became a long distance truck driver. Good money, music playing every day, very few interactions with others.. and I got to see half of America's beautiful landscape!!!
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
That sounds like a very toxic work environment.
What I hate are nonsensical rules. Like someone making a problem out of BS like arriving 2 minutes after 8:00 AM despite not having a position where it would matter that much if I'm there at all or not. Same with home office. I don't see a reason why I couldn't occasionally work from home if most of the time I communicate with others online anyway and nobody even talks to me all day long.
Another thing I hate is BS around taxes, lots of paperwork and dealing with legalese which makes my brain automatically switch off after reading the first line. The government always bullying you about how you can make money, how you have to manage your business and how much you have to give them for their expensive watches and villas abroad.
Nitedoc · 51-55, M
Yes I have felt that way most of the time. You should seriously look into working for yourself. You can go whit or blue collar. I don't know what education you have now but don't put down a blue collar career. A lot of heating and air men, electricians, plumbers and many more crafts make well over six figures a year. That's just working for yourself. If you are in an area that has enough business you can expand and have crews work for you. Yes it's a risk but a hopefully calculated risk. I've known several former tradesman who became small business and became millionaires. Check into it. There are many who fail at it. Learn from the successful ones. If you don't check it out one day you will regret not at least trying it.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@Nitedoc Plus it's work that makes sense and helps people, not just a position like "marketer", "content creator" or BS like that.
robb65 · 56-60, M
Yeah. It took me years to find a way out but I made it. Now work is a hundred yards from my back door and I take breaks any time I want. Most days I don't have to deal with people. My last two "real jobs" involved a couple who bought an existing business (where I first started in my late teens) and ran it into the ground in three short years followed by working for a guy who liked the idea of owning a business but didn't want to put the effort into it to make it work, so after about 7 years he decided to call it quits. Needless to say I hated both of those jobs.
Fortunately by the time the last one fell through I was already in the process of starting my own business. I really didn't have the funds but just before the last guy called it quits I got a call from the son of the man who had taught me much of what I know and he wanted to hire me to build all the cabinets for his new house. It was a big enough job that I was able to take the down payment and buy enough of the tools I didn't have to do it with, and then I worked nights and weekends while still working the other job. It was rough but it got me where I needed to be. It's been over 15 years now. Some of those were not easy years but I'm still here.

My next project is one I didn't really want but I didn't have anything else lined up and the customer was having problems finding anyone else that would take it. I'll get busy with it eventually but right now it's wet and cool and I'm dragging. What I need to be doing and what I must get done in the next day or so is get everything ready for the bad weather this weekend. I need to check the antifreeze in everything, make sure the pipes are wrapped and there's enough firewood, greenhouse closed up and get some heat out there. Got a feeling I'll be sitting next to the fire for a few days.
I'm sorry that must be hard.

I hate working in the sense that it is such a big part of someones life yet can make you so miserable. Bad conditions, not earning enough to lead a decent life, basically only working for the higher ups, the propaganda that hard work is essential and can make you rich is not true at all, being seen as worthless if you don't work, not getting any days off, ...
The work culture in the US is garbage.
SW-User
@RebelliousSpirit I think at this point, it’s just becoming a lie. Maybe once upon a time this logic was building our communities, but now it’s all about money. People are understandably miserable trying to carry on this way.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
Yeah,, those all sound like pretty normal feelings about work, especially in a lousy work environment. For me personally, I daydream about having my own practice someday, but in reality I don’t think I would want to deal with the all-consuming time, energy, and risks it takes to launch/run a successful business. My father owned a business when I was growing up and I barely saw him because of it and he was always stressed out about making the business work, fixing mishaps, and financial dry spells. There was no such thing as being ‘off the clock’. I would detest an environment like yours though for sure.
CornstarchCrusader · 36-40, M
@WhateverWorks My wife and I are working on having kids. I want to be the best father I can possibly be. I want to be able to provide for my children but I also don't want to be the kind of dad who says "I would love to go to your little league game or your dance recital but I am going to be working 8 hours that day and I have to miss it." I want to be the kind of father who is there for all that stuff. I have heard that parenting is both rewarding and hard work. I will gladly accept the hard parts as long as I get to be part of my kids' lives.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I hear ya. When I was growing up the issue was that yeah, my dad ran his own business, but that often meant he was the guy who needed to solve all the problems, staying late to meet deadlines for orders, meetings with customers, arguing with suppliers, fixing mistakes his employees made, doing extra work so we had enough money to pay our bills at home.. there was always more things that needed to be done and he was gone a lot. It was like that for my dad, my stepfather, and my grandparents’ businesses. I was lucky that I lived down the street from Dad’s work, so as a kid I spent a lot of time growing up at the shop, but they were still busy working. I think a lot of people imagine running their own business as being more freeing than it typically is 😅. It’s great if you’re doing something that you’re passionate about, ready to pour yourself into it and are ready to take the risks that come with getting it going. @CornstarchCrusader
MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M
I hate it too. I work a regular 8 hour shift job but then I know that's not enough to pay bills so I'm thinking about getting a part time job or something. But yes co workers are annoying. I work with this really fat gay dude and he literally does nothing but yell like an idiot and be lazy and he smells really bad too on top of that
WolfGirlwh0r3 · 36-40, T
Dude same boat i am working to a just as interior and exterior designer and architect so just find whay makes you happy and donthat
CornstarchCrusader · 36-40, M
@WolfGirlwh0r3 What I desire to do doesn't pay the bills.
WolfGirlwh0r3 · 36-40, T
@CornstarchCrusader Well then find something you can do with pride and let your desired job be what fullfills you
Jungleman · M
never worked a day in my life and i'm glad i haven't.
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
I like others to do everything for me. Thanks
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