Is this normal?

I hate the concept of working. Now, that doesn't mean that I hate the idea of working hard and being productive, I would just rather do it on my own terms. I am going to be 36 years next month. I have lived with moderate OCD and anxiety, ADD, and Tourettes for my entire life. Working 40 hours a week, being tied down to someone else's timetable and working for someone's else's expectations and quotas can be depressing and soul crushing. The worst thing about working? Coworkers. I hate the idea of getting up, going to work and interacting with people who are, for the most part largely toxic and immature. I don't interact with these people outside of work, and I keep up the necessary facade of professionalism and courtesy because I have to work with them, but I have to wonder......is it absolutely necessary to be two-faced, gossipy, and back stabbing as adults? Again, I'm in my mid-30s......I hated, HATED that shit in high school and my tolerance for it as an adult is far less than it was in high school. On the clock, I don't care what problems or damages someone has, I don't care which coworkers hate each other nor do I care what reason they hate each other, I already don't want to be there eight hours a day, putting up with drama makes it more unbearable. I would love to be able to work part time and support myself and my family on that. Life is short and it shouldn't be wrong to want to enjoy it and spend time with those you love and want to be around and experiencing what life has to offer with them. I don't know what job would be good for me, but I know that I am not happy one bit with the daily grind.

What do you all think? Anybody else hate working?

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah,, those all sound like pretty normal feelings about work, especially in a lousy work environment. For me personally, I daydream about having my own practice someday, but in reality I don’t think I would want to deal with the all-consuming time, energy, and risks it takes to launch/run a successful business. My father owned a business when I was growing up and I barely saw him because of it and he was always stressed out about making the business work, fixing mishaps, and financial dry spells. There was no such thing as being ‘off the clock’. I would detest an environment like yours though for sure.

CornstarchCrusader · 36-40, M

@WhateverWorks My wife and I are working on having kids. I want to be the best father I can possibly be. I want to be able to provide for my children but I also don't want to be the kind of dad who says "I would love to go to your little league game or your dance recital but I am going to be working 8 hours that day and I have to miss it." I want to be the kind of father who is there for all that stuff. I have heard that parenting is both rewarding and hard work. I will gladly accept the hard parts as long as I get to be part of my kids' lives.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I hear ya. When I was growing up the issue was that yeah, my dad ran his own business, but that often meant he was the guy who needed to solve all the problems, staying late to meet deadlines for orders, meetings with customers, arguing with suppliers, fixing mistakes his employees made, doing extra work so we had enough money to pay our bills at home.. there was always more things that needed to be done and he was gone a lot. It was like that for my dad, my stepfather, and my grandparents’ businesses. I was lucky that I lived down the street from Dad’s work, so as a kid I spent a lot of time growing up at the shop, but they were still busy working. I think a lot of people imagine running their own business as being more freeing than it typically is 😅. It’s great if you’re doing something that you’re passionate about, ready to pour yourself into it and are ready to take the risks that come with getting it going. @CornstarchCrusader