Sometimes I feel a little scared that other people are right that our happiness is temporary

Exactly.. it’s not like when I say we’re good I mean we’re perfect people in a magic land where nothing bad happens. We’re just a good fit in how we get on so when the bad has happened it’s not made things ‘unhappy’ in the overall relationship. It helps we both believe strongly it’s important to not be a dick to your partner lol @Gangstress

@WhateverWorks exactly the way it should be, it sounds a lot like my relationship if honest, we are a good fit, and we love each other, everything else we work through together!

Exactly.. I don’t have a bunch of pent up stuff to share at the ‘I hate my partner’ punch bowl chats because whatever comes up John and I have already talked about and have a game plan. Or I notice people like to meddle. John’s been super stressed out about some big stuff, so he hadn’t helped unpack much. I can’t tell you how many people told me essentially, “Fnck John’s feelings. You should be pissed and tell him what’s what. He needs to get help make the house look nice ASAP”

😑 Yes Susan, it’s quite the mystery why your relationships don’t work out.
Lol…


So I just keep most things to myself unless there’s a fire I can’t put out 😅
@CookieCrumbs

@WhateverWorks

You know what’s best for you and your relationships. The next time someone meddles and tells you what you should do with YOUR John, tell them to get a John for themselves. 😆

Yeah.. it’s in those moments I do get snippy back in a roundabout way, “I hear ya, but you know, John’s always there for me and his well-being means a lot to me too, so I’m good with living out of boxes for a while until he’s up for it. Empathy and compassion are so important in a lasting relationship, don’t you agree?”

@CookieCrumbs

I’m noticing this theme in the replies where for some reason a lot of people associate happiness with rose colored glasses. It’s kinda unfortunate. When I say we’re really happy still, but not in a delusion way it’s because when the stuff has come up we have so far navigated it well, not that stuff has’t come up and he’s a demigod lol. @ravenwind43

@WhateverWorks I get that lol. And I agree. Happiness is not one way in a relationship. You can be mostly happy and respect the other stuff. It's not all or nothing.

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I think it’s absolutely why despise issues arising, like they do/will, things have remained happy still. @Convivial

@WhateverWorks much better bssis for a relationship than mere sexual attraction

It usually comes up when people ask me how things are going and I give a water downed version of, “Things are still good”, which they then insert the comment and I try to be gracious, “Maybe. We’ll cross that bridge when we get there” @Sutten

@WhateverWorks I hope it works out for you :)

Yeah.. sometimes I think not enough people have experienced happiness that isn’t fantasy based. Like even in this post I mention that we’re really happy, but not in a ‘he/I can do no wrong. We walk on clouds together’ lol


@Miram

There are other areas of my life that I get really down about, but we haven’t had any issues come up that made me miserable. I definitely know what it’s like to be miserable with other people. 😆 We’ve so far had good communication and whatever the blip we resolved pretty quickly 🤷🏻‍♀️ @DeluxedEdition

That’s probably true. Last night when I wrote this I was wondering how many years before people finally stop dumping their cynicism about my relationship on me, but there probably isn’t any number of years that would satisfy them. We could be happily together for 15 years and instead say we were faking it 🤷🏻‍♀️ @alan20

Oh no.. they’ve specifically said that we’ll end unhappy because that’s just.. what happens lol
The thing is, they know I’m a realist. They know that I’m not doe eyed oblivious to John’s quirks and significant stuff has come up in the last 3 years. My health, co-parenting, the house, PTSD stuff etc. But since we’re still doing well it must be the honeymoon syndrome.. like.. none of our ability to lowkey navigate issues as a team and still be happy could possibly be real. 🙁

I agree with your post though. @REMsleep

Congratulations on your 18 years 🍾😊💜@SW-User

@WhateverWorks Thanks 😘