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Sometimes I feel a little scared that other people are right that our happiness is temporary

John and I are really happy.. not delusional, ‘walks on water’ happy. We’re just a really good match. I wonder how many years we need to be together before other people finally stop making low-key, negative comments implying our happiness is a fleeting honeymoon stage that’ll all come crashing down? IRL I don’t disclose much about how well we get on out of consideration. They’d rather hear John is awful, that we are awful, thus confirming even happy, long-term relationships are doomed.

I try to ignore their remarks and body language, but it still manages to peck at my anxiety..
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REMsleep · 41-45, F
Even when people tell you that you're just in a honeymoon stage I don't think they mean that later you're going to be massively unhappy, it simply means that the very beginning excitement doesn't usually last forever and that's true of almost anything that you like.
Edit: also bad things will happen to anyone who lives long enough and some disagreement will occur so they probably want you to be aware
WhateverWorks · 36-40
Oh no.. they’ve specifically said that we’ll end unhappy because that’s just.. what happens lol
The thing is, they know I’m a realist. They know that I’m not doe eyed oblivious to John’s quirks and significant stuff has come up in the last 3 years. My health, co-parenting, the house, PTSD stuff etc. But since we’re still doing well it must be the honeymoon syndrome.. like.. none of our ability to lowkey navigate issues as a team and still be happy could possibly be real. 🙁

I agree with your post though. @REMsleep