Sometimes I feel a little scared that other people are right that our happiness is temporary

John and I are really happy.. not delusional, ‘walks on water’ happy. We’re just a really good match. I wonder how many years we need to be together before other people finally stop making low-key, negative comments implying our happiness is a fleeting honeymoon stage that’ll all come crashing down? IRL I don’t disclose much about how well we get on out of consideration. They’d rather hear John is awful, that we are awful, thus confirming even happy, long-term relationships are doomed.

I try to ignore their remarks and body language, but it still manages to peck at my anxiety..

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CookieCrumbs · F

People will never understand what they have not experienced.

And if they had a bad experience with relationships and discovered that there was no such thing as forever , they will assume the same in the relationships of others. And possibly there is a part of them that wishes you will never have the happiness they wished for.

gdon39 · 46-50, M

@CookieCrumbs that is sad

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I agree. I want to be empathetic to all that, which is why irl I don’t babble about my love life.
I am also getting to the point that I want to tell them to piss off 🤔😅 @CookieCrumbs

CookieCrumbs · F

@WhateverWorks
I’m the same. I don’t discuss my personal life with people. I don’t publicly share if I’m excitedly happy about something or upset with loved ones. It really is nobody’s business.

And I don’t think it’s fair that I discuss with others if there are issues that I’m dealing with.

If I have those, it is best I discuss it with the one I’m in a relationship with because the opinions of other people will be based on their own personal experiences, and they may not fully grasp the intricacies of my relationship.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Exactly.. I don’t have a bunch of pent up stuff to share at the ‘I hate my partner’ punch bowl chats because whatever comes up John and I have already talked about and have a game plan. Or I notice people like to meddle. John’s been super stressed out about some big stuff, so he hadn’t helped unpack much. I can’t tell you how many people told me essentially, “Fnck John’s feelings. You should be pissed and tell him what’s what. He needs to get help make the house look nice ASAP”

😑 Yes Susan, it’s quite the mystery why your relationships don’t work out.
Lol…

So I just keep most things to myself unless there’s a fire I can’t put out 😅
@CookieCrumbs

CookieCrumbs · F

@WhateverWorks

You know what’s best for you and your relationships. The next time someone meddles and tells you what you should do with YOUR John, tell them to get a John for themselves. 😆

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah.. it’s in those moments I do get snippy back in a roundabout way, “I hear ya, but you know, John’s always there for me and his well-being means a lot to me too, so I’m good with living out of boxes for a while until he’s up for it. Empathy and compassion are so important in a lasting relationship, don’t you agree?”

@CookieCrumbs