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What are your feelings on someone that's constantly late?

So we made plans yesterday.
He was going to arrive at 11am because the food were cooking takes a while to prepare and cook. I even tried to get a head start on it by seasoning it the night before to marinate.
Anyways he got some good news and decided to go out to celebrate.
I'm not a scrooge if that's what you want to do fine.

Anyways it's now 2. 15pm and he's still not here!

He's called asking me if I want food. But why do I need to make all the decisions when, whenever I make decisions he still does what he wants to do!

I'm pissed off!
WhateverWorks · 36-40
If this is a frequent problem already then you probably want to drop them because the more serious a relationship gets the more important being able to coordinate becomes. These kind of flaky, inconsiderate behaviors become much bigger, ‘disrespect and screwing up things going on in your life/lives’ problems.

On the off chance this isn’t a frequent thing then I wouldn’t stress about it. It sounds like he invited you out to also join in celebrating his good news, but you declined. Part of having a good relationship is being able to join in the good vibes of celebrating each other’s wins. Again, based on the possibility that he doesn’t do this a lot, if you declined going ‘ because it’s the principle of the thing‘ that he had plans with you then change them, it might be worth looking inward at your own rigidity.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@WhateverWorks he's late every time we meet, the last time he said it was due to the train strike but it turned out that he went to a friend's and ended up having a few drinks with them.
Anyways, it was news about his sister. And I wasn't invited to join.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
Yeah, that all sounds like red flags @Mellowgirl
Your anger is justified. He’s not a teenager anymore to act so irresponsibly. What he did was v disrespectful. You should discuss it with him…tell him he should have called you and asked you to come join in his celebration.
Krysclear · 31-35, F
Everyone is late once in a while. But those that are always late are rude.
It shows a complete lack of respect for you and your time
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Krysclear agreed.
I won't lie I think he has a little issue.what's worse is that as lovely as he is I can't abide tardiness!
REMsleep · 41-45, F
If this is a romantic connection drop him because hes showing big time signs of disrespect of your time and not really caring what you have going on.

If this is a friend you need to be extremely firm and don't hesitate to cancel if hes taking too long tell him you have something else you have to do.
gdon39 · 46-50, M
I do not like that one bit. My time is worth same as yours and I was early.
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
I tell these people that the event is 30-45 minutes earlier than it actually is. Sometimes I tell them it's an hour earlier. You shouldn't have to do that but it's a useful thing to do if you're dealing with someone who tends to always run late.

Like the others are saying....it's a sign of disregard for your time and it's disrespectful.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@HermannFegelein telling someone to arrive at 10am is taking the piss... I pretty much said get ready for 11 he text me on 12.30 and didn't arrive until 3
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
It depends on what kind of person they are overall and how it affects me personally but I don't like it. If it happens regularly, they are clearly unreliable.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@CrazyMusicLover he regularly goes out drinking til all hours, but he has a job so he has managed to keep that.
I just have a massive issue with poor time keeping due to my mum and her disrespectful behaviour. It's constant and sometimes she turns up 3 hours late and no call.
Definitely another red flag.....

He doesn't respect your time and he doesn't respect your effort (the food).
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Iwillwait · M
Sounds like drug issues.
SW-User
Done ...so done
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Geez. He doesn't value your time. I'd be pissed, too.

 
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