What are your feelings on someone that's constantly late?

So we made plans yesterday.
He was going to arrive at 11am because the food were cooking takes a while to prepare and cook. I even tried to get a head start on it by seasoning it the night before to marinate.
Anyways he got some good news and decided to go out to celebrate.
I'm not a scrooge if that's what you want to do fine.

Anyways it's now 2. 15pm and he's still not here!

He's called asking me if I want food. But why do I need to make all the decisions when, whenever I make decisions he still does what he wants to do!

I'm pissed off!

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

If this is a frequent problem already then you probably want to drop them because the more serious a relationship gets the more important being able to coordinate becomes. These kind of flaky, inconsiderate behaviors become much bigger, ‘disrespect and screwing up things going on in your life/lives’ problems.

On the off chance this isn’t a frequent thing then I wouldn’t stress about it. It sounds like he invited you out to also join in celebrating his good news, but you declined. Part of having a good relationship is being able to join in the good vibes of celebrating each other’s wins. Again, based on the possibility that he doesn’t do this a lot, if you declined going ‘ because it’s the principle of the thing‘ that he had plans with you then change them, it might be worth looking inward at your own rigidity.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@WhateverWorks he's late every time we meet, the last time he said it was due to the train strike but it turned out that he went to a friend's and ended up having a few drinks with them.
Anyways, it was news about his sister. And I wasn't invited to join.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah, that all sounds like red flags @Mellowgirl