Are you getting all you deserve in life? When I am dealing with this kind feeling, I feel so...

TinyViolins · 31-35, M Best Comment

The concept of "deserve" implies that the world is fair and people get exactly what they put in. The world has never been fair and nobody is really owed anything.

Some of us can be the kind, caring, patient, supportive, and giving, and still get overlooked and ignored. That's the most painful thing of all. When you give your best to the people around you and get nothing back in return. As if people don't even see you. As if you only exist to be used.

Your heart tends to close up after that. There's only so much a person can give before they start to run out, and then people start to drift away once they realize that fountain has run dry. It's heartbreaking to go through, and I'm sorry you have to go through the same. It really does make you wonder what the point of going on even is.

I guess the only thing that can help keep us afloat is the hope that we are not alone. That there are other people out there that are inclined to give and to treat others with the kindness they wish to be treated with. Maybe they've been jaded by life as well and are harder to find, but they're still out there. I mean, what are the odds that you're the only person that has gone through this?

Having that hope in the good in people, that someday you'll find somebody that can appreciate the love and kindness you have to offer, should help to keep you going. It's easy to be brought down by disappointment and negativity, but knowing that there is some positive out there, that there is someone that can love unselfishly, is a powerful force that can help you look beyond the pain of your past.

wildbill83 · 36-40, M

nope, I'm a hopeless romantic; people come to me for relationship advice, but not for a relationship with me

despite being highly educated and overqualified for many jobs/careers, it's always the underqualified, unexperienced plebs that get the most career opportunities

If someone needs something, I'm one of the first people they come to; If I need something, everyone suddenly becomes unavailable

people complain about their minor, fleeting health problems, and I'm supposed to drop everything and focus on them; I have actual, debilitating, chronic health problems/injuries/pain, and most could care less

kimmy159 · F

People tend to take this for granted, both personally as professionally. I often make the same mistake. All I can advice is, even if it goes against your good and pleasing nature, don’t be available and helpful all the time even if you want to be.
Most people will only realize your meaning if you are not always there. At work too, having and setting boundaries, saying no and protesting sometimes, shows a determined mind and like they can’t do whatever, otherwise they’ll start treating you like a doormat. Sad but true.

LadyGrace

You have answered your own question. You have assessed that you are a good, kind, loving person and sensitive to others and their needs. That means indeed, you deserve better. If others don't recognize that in you, that is their loss, not yours. Hang around people who appreciate you and respect you for who you are. But most of all, love yourself and don't settle for less.

AngelKrish · 26-30, M

Nope but what i have right now...i am grateful for that 😊

SW-User

I don't honestly think that it works like that, about deserving something, in the end we do what we can with what we have, but it's not balanced always.
I wished it was but it isn't always.
You gotta just love yourself like you have wanted others to love you

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

Yeah I feel that.

Actually I'm getting a whole lot of shit for being good. Which is why I'm shutting myself out.

I'm not asking that I deserve it. But geez why can't I catch a break.

markansas

you are young.. i feel that way myself. and i am old. just keep up your head and find yourself first the inside person. and where ya want to go . you are not alone in this feeling. mark