In your opinion, am I right or wrong for thinking this way?

If I say something that is reasonably tame in how it is worded and without the intent to offend anyone, but strangers are indeed offended by what I said, I don't care 🤷🏽‍♂️. If we are in public and they aren't annoying or hostile about how they voice their offense I may say sorry but I won't mean it and it wont change my behavior in the future either.

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Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

I have learned that maybe I am just an innate a-hole. I too feel I have said things in a tame voice, tamely worded and not meant to offend, but still do. I am told just the opposite of what I am thinking I am doing, from that person's perspective.

It comes down to my interpretation against theirs, but I have had to reflect that with this happening with different people, maybe the problem is me. Not that I am saying that I have to change my life, change who I am, but I do have to own that maybe I am a bit of a jerk and I can try to work on that.

Eternity · 26-30, M

@Lackwittyname i feel similarly but without the want to 'improve'. I'm insensitive I guess and I don't feel like spending the energy it would require to become less so; I could and do spend that energy on things that would be far more beneficial to my life than being more appealing in the eyes of strangers.

Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

@Eternity Yep, with many relationships under my belt through the years, the deciding to improve was just a choice I made, albeit maybe 10 years ago. I do recall being similar to you at the age you have listed. Funny how time and aging work and we change

Eternity · 26-30, M

@Lackwittyname fair enough. Time changes all things and I doubt I am an exception.

QueenOfZaun · 26-30, F

Communication goes both ways. You have a right to say whatever you feel and others have a right to feel offended by it. Everyone has different levels of tolerance and unfortunately that’s just how social interactions are. Not everyone will like what you have to say.

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

Yeah there's a judgement call in these situations. Although it's important to like, consider the feelings of others we all also have to just put up with each other and some people get offended by normal speech and behaviour. Their problem at that point.

Eternity · 26-30, M

@CountScrofula right that's how I feel. If you're especially sensitive then the onus should be on you to take the necessary precautions to avoid the harming of your sensiblities; so long as they are exercising the basic level of restraint that is expected from sane and properly socialized individuals, it is impractical and unfair to expect others to try and think ahead about what may or may not offend someone before they express themselves

sexyjigsaw

Some people weaponize their offendedness

Besides people like that, I like the idea of being understanding and apologizing even if you don't understand or see it that they may be too sensitive

FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M

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sugarpie · 26-30, F

Maybe we all need to respect eachother. As long as your opinion are just being said and not mocking other's beliefs, I think it's fine.

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