In your opinion, am I right or wrong for thinking this way?

If I say something that is reasonably tame in how it is worded and without the intent to offend anyone, but strangers are indeed offended by what I said, I don't care 🤷🏽‍♂️. If we are in public and they aren't annoying or hostile about how they voice their offense I may say sorry but I won't mean it and it wont change my behavior in the future either.

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Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

I have learned that maybe I am just an innate a-hole. I too feel I have said things in a tame voice, tamely worded and not meant to offend, but still do. I am told just the opposite of what I am thinking I am doing, from that person's perspective.

It comes down to my interpretation against theirs, but I have had to reflect that with this happening with different people, maybe the problem is me. Not that I am saying that I have to change my life, change who I am, but I do have to own that maybe I am a bit of a jerk and I can try to work on that.

SW-User

@Lackwittyname i feel similarly but without the want to 'improve'. I'm insensitive I guess and I don't feel like spending the energy it would require to become less so; I could and do spend that energy on things that would be far more beneficial to my life than being more appealing in the eyes of strangers.

Lackwittyname · 51-55, M

@SW-User Yep, with many relationships under my belt through the years, the deciding to improve was just a choice I made, albeit maybe 10 years ago. I do recall being similar to you at the age you have listed. Funny how time and aging work and we change

SW-User

@Lackwittyname fair enough. Time changes all things and I doubt I am an exception.