To be real, I think I am just unloveable and that’s okay. Like it really is. I repel everyone e...

Viper · M

To be real, I think I am just unloveable

I repel everyone eventually.

I don’t know what to do with my sweet heart, but to tuck it away safely.

I feel the exact same with myself, though it depresses me.

JackJames · M

I don’t know if it’s fully true or if maybe it’s just a matter a perspective. I’ve had an ex wife and ex roommate call me heartless and cold. However, I’ve also had people call me caring and warm. Maybe people like us just become distant when we don’t feel wanted or loved, but we do it in an intense way to push people away so as not to get hurt and they look at it as we’re heartless and cold.

SW-User

I don't think there's such a thing as being unlovable since people can love a variety of things in a person, sometimes things that others see as problematic, but maybe you feel that way about yourself? Like you don't love yourself?

being · 36-40, F

I had that belief about myself too and there are still some pieces of it left within me. What truly helped me was an intense month of daily affirmations.

CookieCrumbs · F

The person who can truly understand you will come. Be who you are.

We shouldn’t conform to people’s expectations to be loved and accepted.

SomeMichGuy · M

I think there is often a disconnect between what people seem to think of themselves v. how they *actually* are; the former is often a dream, juvenile, a wish, bit not truly aspirational--perhaps best understood as what one would want others to think, if one were one's own publicist. But the latter is the stark reality. The dissonance is often huge, the gulf between the two, vast.

In a sea of *that*, being...more transparent in whom you are, more "real" & engaged in the moment...it is something which others are not able to trust easily, as it is so foreign to them.

I think people don't know how to deal with you in that sense.

SW-User

I believe in making the best of it too

SW-User

We should talk

Nebula · 41-45, F

I feel that.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

PhoenixPhail · M

You're cherished now, and hardly unlovable.
Does your eventually repelling everyone include some part of you?

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

If people don't love you for who you are, they don't deserve you, right?

Tracos · 51-55, M

want to go get coffee?

Bang5luts · M

I do not believe that to be true. You are lovable, we all are on many different levels. Truly. And we (most of us) have worked our asses off carrying others on our backs, and deserve the best this life has to offer us!

Justenjoyit · 61-69, M

You are too young for me, I dont see a problem you are being yourself so thats a big plus.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

There's someone for everyone!