can someone tell me

I just try to remind myself that most people are really unremarkable on a grand scale, and what matters most is making a difference in your own little place in the world. Beyond that, becoming someone who's worth remembering is more difficult than ever, since the population as a whole has grown dramatically. A corollary to this, however, is that a remotely prestigious position now vs a comparable prestigious position a few hundred years back is more meaningful, since there are more people who you have the potential to positively impact.

Sometimes when I'm lost in this train of thought, my mind wonders to people like mountain climbers and professional athletes, who seem incredible to an outsider and receive endless adulation. But from a moral standpoint, these people basically don't matter anyway, as their work is usually limited to fap material for the billions of hardworking people and low-lives alike who actually keep society running. IDK if you find that comforting, but I sure do.

I started out not taking it seriously enough, then going the other way and it was WAY too serious, but with time, age and lessons learned (some lessons that is), I learned to slow down, relax and breathe and try to find a balance. It's not easy and I don't always get it right or it takes time, but finding things to distract yourself away from the serious can help. Finding things you enjoy on your off times that engage the mind has really helped me.

When I was in shape and younger it was a lot of physical things. Surfing, volleyball, archery, camping, roller skating, beach parties or just a bonfire with someone special or a few friends. Art was another thing that helped me. Now, I can't do those things anymore, so I find other ways. I still work on art and am trying to expand the mediums I practice. I play games online to keep me focused, I read and talk with people from all over the world, but as I'm older, I've come to realize...for me at least...that all the crap I focused on before and thought was important, just wasn't and that people can freak out, can yell or get pissed at me for reasons that don't exist and it's fine. It doesn't really impact me or my life unless I let it. If they want to blow a gasket over something, that's their issue. If I am at fault and it's not a small thing, I'll apologize and do my best to fix it as fast as possible, but again, reminding myself that life doesn't revolve around that one thing and I'll take care of it.

Don't know if any of this helps or if I just rambled on and missed the mark, but that's the best I can come up with. It's always different for each of us. You need to find what works for you. Whether it's calligraphy or bonsai trimming or landscaping or painting or reading or whatever. Hey, you could find out you're great at paintball for all I know. :D But you need to find the balance that will take you out of the mindset that every little thing is a serious matter.

Okay, shutting up now. :D Hope you have a great day and can figure this out long before I did. Best of luck.

When I was in my 20s I took everything more seriously and was much more melodramatic. I just grew out of it with age and realized that most things really don't matter that much and just enjoy every day. Boring advice I know, but true.

You'll mellow out with time, when your life stabilizes, when you make peace with the past.But being chill is boring. Drama is addictive. Raise your tolerance for boredom if that's the life you want.

Please share with me if you find out, okay?

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In the meantime, let’s die on the dance floor. 🖤🤗

At 23, you’re still a kid. Don’t fret about running out of time before you hit 60.

I have always felt this way but haven't really found an answer myself.

For a while there it was even bad enough that deep down there would be some small part that would hope to wake up to bad news at a global level, just to feel that personal feelings lined up with reality. Of course, those things looking up don't help, they just make the sense of impending doom worse.

that’s how society makes everyone feel. you will be okay.