How do you feel when you are disappointing your parents? How do you overcome it? I tried to...

redeem26 · 36-40, M

This is a difficult question to answer. The fact of the matter is your parents and you will never see eye to eye, nor will they think like you do. If you disappoint them, yet are doing something you enjoy, then that's not you failing to live up to their expectations, that's them failing to understand the things that make you happy.

There will always be some friction there. Parents (good ones at least) will always be worried about their children long into adulthood, however many can't see past the stage where they were regulating your life, and attempt to do so at every turn. That doesn't make them bad parents, they just don't know any other way of being supportive.

xixgun · M

Accept the fact that many times, you will never gain their approval, so quit seeking it.
Live your life as would live it, and let them become the strangers they eventually will.
We all have things we wish were different, they aren't and we can't change them, so don't worry about it.

Fernie · F

Then he needs to find an agency that will send nurses to his home. Don't for one second believe that you HAVE to live like this...you do NOT owe him your life. This guilt nonsense has destroyed the lives of many children. I know that we have been conditioned to believe that because someone is a parent...they can behave any damn way they want to….having kids does NOT automatically make someone a GOOD parent or mean that you owe them your life, peace and happiness. Get some outside help, feel good about yourself, don't give him all your power and free yourself

TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

I also felt sad when I realized that I was a disappointment to my mother. But I gave up trying to please her a long time ago. I eventually realized that I simply wasn't the person that she wanted me to be, and that wasn't a bad thing. I am pretty much exactly the person I was meant to be, it's just that she refuses to try to understand and accept that, because she wanted me to be someone different.

I don't know all the details of your situation, and what has happened between you and your dad, but it sounds like that may very well be the case with you. Sadly, you can't change him or make him understand you, but you can learn to love and accept yourself. Your first instinct, wanting to leave him, is right. It sounds like his health is failing and he needs someone to look after him. You may be able to help him, while limiting contact with him. Or, if even that is too painful, you may want to get someone else to help him. It's very hard to accept this, but it does get easier, if you spend enough time away from him.

Best wishes to you. <3 🤗

ABCDEF7 · M

He wanted you to be successful, he was having expectations from you, and he would have been happy with your success that no one else could have been. He just showed his disappointment that you are still living with.

I am sure when you take care of him and succeed in your life, he would be happy again. And y
Then you too will be.

Best Wishes. :)

zeeva70 · F

His illness probably clouds his thinking. Assume he loves, has always loved you, and wants you to be happy.

Find some peace, perhaps through mediation or mindfulness. Look for things that make you laugh and feel good.

Remember: you're valuable and loved.

Echoing · 61-69, F

Your good heart is showing here. Cool! I am 62 and still a disappointment to my mother. BUT.. she is never pleased. Blessing to you Quicksilver.

Sazzio · 36-40, M

I gave up pleasing my mother long ago. Push me forward?? NEVER EVER EVER got that. Toxic relationship init? It a nasty business.

SimplyLogicalDiscipline · 36-40, F

Do you believe in reincarnation?

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