How do you feel when you are disappointing your parents?

How do you overcome it?

I tried to please my dad so hard but once I fall, I was labelled as failed.

No one wants to disappoint their parents but sometimes they pushed too much over the limit.

I'm not sure how does he see me now. He seems despise me.

I wanna leave him but, he is not healthy. He always got hospitalised.

I wanna look after him, but the words he projected to me like he wants me vanish.

I feel bad, angry and sad. I'm so messed up.

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TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F

I also felt sad when I realized that I was a disappointment to my mother. But I gave up trying to please her a long time ago. I eventually realized that I simply wasn't the person that she wanted me to be, and that wasn't a bad thing. I am pretty much exactly the person I was meant to be, it's just that she refuses to try to understand and accept that, because she wanted me to be someone different.

I don't know all the details of your situation, and what has happened between you and your dad, but it sounds like that may very well be the case with you. Sadly, you can't change him or make him understand you, but you can learn to love and accept yourself. Your first instinct, wanting to leave him, is right. It sounds like his health is failing and he needs someone to look after him. You may be able to help him, while limiting contact with him. Or, if even that is too painful, you may want to get someone else to help him. It's very hard to accept this, but it does get easier, if you spend enough time away from him.

Best wishes to you. <3 🤗