Am I that horrible if a daughter? My mom has been living with my brother and his wife for a...

Oh honey, I feel for you. I understand. Please don’t feel guilty. You can only do what you can do. I know you love your mother, but your sanity comes first. You’ve tried that before. She doesn’t want to stay with her own mother, yet expects you to do something you know would affect and even damage many aspects of your own life. She’ll have to move in with her mom, honey. No question about it. The strain would kill you, and it would be the same answer if it was about anyone else. Do what is right for you. Be true to thine own self.

Mamapolo2016 · F

This is hard, but consider your Mom has choices. She can get an apartment or live with her own mother (which she probably doesn't want to do for the same reasons you don't want her to move in with you).

If she had no choices, I would have suggested taking her in on a clearly stated temporary-to-end-on-a-specific date while you worked out a better solution. But she can take care of herself and your marriage should not be sacrificed on the altar of what she wants.

I lived with my daughter for a year and a half or so. We were all reasonable people but it was still a strain on everybody.

Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F

Find her an apartment where she can have a roomate so she wont be alone.Advertise.In the mean time put her up in a hotel.

MarmeeMarch · M

Wait a second - your mom dosent want to live with her mother ? why should you live with yours. If you are living in a small apt. and have kids and your husband argues with you - what do you think it will be like when and if mom moves in. Not good to have the kids see fighting.

TrunkZ · 56-60, M

If she doesn't have the finances for her own place does that mean she is moving in forever? From what you describe that would never work.

Cajunfirefly · 41-45, F

If her mother has the room and you don't...sounds like mom and grandma are bunking together. Temporarily at least

Mamapolo2016 · F

Oh, and No, yiu're not a horrible daughter. Any mother worth her salt (who has options) would tell their daughter it was [i]her[/i] family that took priority.

RenaissanceMan

Reverse the scenario. What would you want your mother to do if you were in her place? That's another perspective.

JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M

You sound like utter white trash to be honest.

I doubt there’s much you have the ability to do to change that.

Montanaman · M

No, it's probably best, you don't need to add more toxicity. 😔🤗🤗

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

It sounds like she's moving in... with you.