Am I that horrible if a daughter?

@LadyGrace I wasn't trying to make her feel guilty. I said that's ANOTHER perspective. Like your perspective was ASSUMING what I meant.
And yes, I have been in a similar position with my own father the last five years of his life. While he slowly died I put my entire life on hold while raising my daughter as a single parent. I did take care of his every need and daily care. There were more people in the family who had more time more resources than I and they didn't help.

@RenaissanceMan I see. I’m sorry. I misunderstood. And I’m sorry you had no help. It’s wonderful what you did.

@LadyGrace I do believe that a parents child/children should take care of their parents in old age unless the parents health is so debilitating it can't be managed without medical help. I visited a country once where apartments were owned by the residents. In one family unit there would sometimes be great-grandmother, grandmother, husband, wife, and children. And....you would definitely be sent to jail or prison for NOT taking care of your parents after they reached the age of sixty. Every family has some dysfunctional attributes, but that is no excuse. This system of care takes a huge load off of society financially. When I was helpless my father took care of me. I owed him that much even though we butted heads sometimes. I think this perspective should at least be considered in any given situation concerning the elderly. This is common in most countries outside the U.S. People here are selfish. Not all but most. Anyway, thank you for your response.
Love🌷

@RenaissanceMan Please don’t get me wrong. I feel the same way as you do about parents. They deserve to be taken care of, after years of dedication to us. It’s the least we can do. I always showed them respect.

I don’t expect too many would understand, but there was a time when I had to get away from my abusive mother, to save my own sanity. I did go back however, later, when I felt I could handle it, and she didn’t treat me that way anymore. I never stopped loving them though. Thank you for your kind response. And for the love and rose. I won’t forget it. Love and hugs, Grace

@LadyGrace My mother was abusive. The kind of abuse that sends you to prison. She has aliented herself from Everyone. She's 87 years old. Sits alone in her big house with her cats for companions. She wants it that way and we just leave her be.
Anyway, your welcome.
Love and hugs, Marsane

I’m sorry to hear that and that you have to go through that, and family. She might do that, so she doesn’t hurt anyone, any more. @RenaissanceMan