Am I that horrible if a daughter?

My mom has been living with my brother and his wife for a couple years now and they are moving next week to another state and my mom has nowhere to go once they leave. My mom doesn't have the finances to supply for her own place and she does not want to stay with her mother. The only option she has either a shelter or apartment. I am married, have a very small apartment and my husband and I already argue constantly. I love my mom dearly but she is very opinionated and believes it is either her way or no way at all. I would rather my mom not move in with us because of space, privacy, and overall our sanity and jeopardizing my relationship with her and my husband, it's happened before. We each have our own habits that have ALREADY clashed together. I know I'm terrible and I can't let her live in the shelter, I just don't know what to do????

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Mamapolo2016 · F

This is hard, but consider your Mom has choices. She can get an apartment or live with her own mother (which she probably doesn't want to do for the same reasons you don't want her to move in with you).

If she had no choices, I would have suggested taking her in on a clearly stated temporary-to-end-on-a-specific date while you worked out a better solution. But she can take care of herself and your marriage should not be sacrificed on the altar of what she wants.

I lived with my daughter for a year and a half or so. We were all reasonable people but it was still a strain on everybody.

Waitforme · 26-30, F

@Mamapolo2016 I have watched the difficulties and emotional stress my brother and sister-in-law have went through while my mom has stayed with them. My sister-in-law is a lot more humble and patient than I am too. If it was just me only living in my apartment I would move her things in asap with no question! And yes, she doesn't want to move in with her mother because of the same reasons.