I support crossdressing and the LGBTQIA+community [I Want To Find A Place For Crossdressers]
WELCOME TO HIGHONHEELSpersonal Crossdressing & LGBTQIA+ community chat forum
I would like this post to be a place where m-f or f-m crossdressers / genderfluids / femanine-masculine expressives / transgenders and sissy’setc...or however you prefer to identify and the members of the LGBTQIA+ community and all those who accept & support us can all come together and be accepted with open hearts and open minds and find support with no judgmental attitudes.
Please let’s not keep this to ourselves , you may let others know they are welcome to check out this forum and join in on the fun if they want.
If any members of this forum has any issues with another member lets please try to handle it in a polite and respectful way so as to not disrupt any of the other members interactions , I really don’t want anything to become a forum wide issue.
Let’s all please try to get along that’s all I ask. We can deal with these things together, you are not alone , we have eachother , and that’s what it’s all about , right.
THERE WILL UNFORTUNETLY HAVE TO BE SOME OBVIOUS GUIDLINES IN PLACE
1. please no nude pics or sheer see through materials showing off any inappropriate body parts , I don’t want this to be that kind of place 2. No negative conentations or derogatory remarks toward any user and or users comments / reply’s on this forum. 3. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you ( be respectful ). 4. Be openminded and mindful of others thoughts , feelings and opinions. 5. Be supportive and friendly to others. 6. chill out and have fun but not at the expense of others
If anyone has a problem with another member or anything you'd like to discuss about a problem on this forum please contact me (Highonheels) or (Gillian) through PMs and we will try our best to solve the problem and or deal with the issue
Anyone who fails to obey these 6 simple rules / guidelines your remarks / comments / pics will be deleted so please don’t make me do that I really don’t like to do it but I will. This is me I promise
Xmas shoot with my partner 😁. She kept herself behind the camera tho, so here's me on a selfie and posing with my self gifted Xmas present... Or its box at least.
Here's a pic of the new heels with an outfit. Always nice to get a complete image of what I have going on in my head when I think about outfits and styles.
So, it's been a while and I know a lot of you have reached out to me, and I thank you for the messages.
I did disappear and yes, I did delete most my posts and pictures. And there are a couple reasons for that. Firstly, and I know I am not the only one who feels this way, it was because SW does not hold the same appeal anymore. I mean, it was a far cry from EP and it never really lived up to what it was supposed to be. I had also noticed a lot of toxicity and negativity coming out. I know that was always a part of an open platform like this, but when it starts affecting your friends, you don't really want to be a part of it anymore. I have always been the advocate and fought for respect, understanding and acceptance among those outside our circle, but that just really became harder to do in recent times. Not only are the trolls and hate becoming all the more prevalent, but sometimes even those in the community who have different values tend to undermine what I was always trying to do. I mean, that is fine. Everyone is free to do and act the way they want and I respect that too.
I think what really makes me who I am are my words, and not my pictures. Sure, I enjoyed showing them as they were a good representation of how I saw myself, but I feel my voice was more important than showing how I looked in an outfit. Also, it was more fun for me to talk about fashion and putting together outfits, rather than fishing for likes and comments.
Another reason for leaving is that I had become very good friends with a couple of people on here, and someone I trusted. They were also affected by the negativity here and decided to limit their social media and get away from here. So, a number of us left around the same time and we are still in contact on other platforms.
And that leads me to my third reason for leaving. Presenting myself. Advocating for people similar to myself on huge platforms like this is difficult enough when the spectrum and interests are so different...even within smaller groups such as being genderfluid. Nobody identifying as genderfluid is going to be exactly the same as me. I always tried to portray a version of myself that was genuine, sophisticated, and respectful. Trying to represent everyone just wasn't working and I needed to concentrate more on myself. Which leads to the main reason I left.
In April, I came out to my wife in real life. Long story short...it was a horrible night, and horrible week that followed. It was not the fact that I was genderfluid, it was more of the wrong time to reveal that, and also a huge trust issue. I had been keeping this to myself for 38 years and had kept this a secret for the 17 years of knowing her. I'm not going to go into details but at the end of the day, she has accepted and welcomes my genderfluidity completely. She is fine with it. I just didn't want there to be any more secrets, and having separate and different accounts such as this was just a bad idea. Hence the reason I took most my content off. I am not out completely in real life, only to two people, but I need to focus on my real life now and not have these separate profiles.
So yeah, she's seen the outfits and we're sharing clothes when we want to. I'm still not out, so it's mostly dressing up at home. Also, it's not a big thing. I'll throw on a dress or skirt or some workout clothes depending on how I'm feeling. Otherwise, it's my usual self. Also, if any of you know me, my personality doesn't change depending on how I'm presenting. This is the way I am as a guy and this is the way I am as a girl. And if you remember my posts, I was always very vocal about how I act and speak. My wife says she doesn't see a difference actually. I mean, my regular clothes were always kind of borderline anyway. I used to wear tights or yoga pants as a guy. Now there might just be something like a dress, or workout clothes.
A big piece of news is that pride month has just finished and I hope you all had a good one. It was an interesting one for me, and I am just lucky to be in a country/city that is really open and accepting of the whole community, especially during June. So, I got to go to my first event and actually took part in the parade as Gillian. I'm only out to two people but I guess the whole city of 570 000 people got to see me that day. I'd like to think I was passable but yeah, I didn't really get the time and practice doing my makeup. Hopefully next year. It's also an outfit I'd been planning for 20 years. I guess it was nerve-racking but also strangely okay just walking around like that. Even in areas that weren't for the event. My first pride event and a pretty chilled one despite being out in the city for a day.
So yeah, that's me. I've got a lot going on in real life too, not related to the genderfluid stuff, so I don't really spend much time on social media. But I do come back here occasionally to check messages and to see what's going on. It seems like nothing much changes though, and it looks like many people have left too. That's the way it usually goes. I hope those who are still here are keeping well and getting on with your own lives too.
@plasticpants02 so very sorry! I know it must hurt so much. So many tears. I would hug you if I could. I hope that dressing has given some consolation. Happy to chat more if it could help.
@ReneeT It was great interacting with you too. And yes, it wasn't easy coming out but I'm glad I did. Just have to see what happens from now on. I do want to try to be more involved with the LGBT community in the future somehow.
I will pop on from time to time, even if it's just to see what's going on here. ☺️
Impulse buy today. Some peep-toe booties (@Highonheels always think of you when I have heels). I know I shouldn't have and it has been so long since I was last active on here, but I have a few days to myself. It seems that no matter how your life changes, you'll never be able to let go of who you truly are inside.
A little late but wishing everyone a Merry Christmas. Also Happy New Year for Friday. 2020 certainly was an interesting year. Hope you are all taking care especially with how bad things have gotten around the world.
Anyway, haven't had to opportunity to do an awesome Christmas shoot like @automx03, so just recycling an old pic. Best wishes for the festive season.
I love how when you post a pic in the "I am a crossdresser" group, you get replies like "You are a man" and "A trap". Don't know why I even bother sometimes.
@Fordman64 thanks for the comments and kind words. And no worries. Unless someone actually attacks us or says something bad or stupid, I always give people the benefit of the doubt. And I'm usually the first one to welcome new friends. I don't judge people unless I'm provoked.
@Highonheels I only chatted to her the one time. I don't think she would really want to hang around in a group like this though. She's really young but pretty cool. Just stands up for what she believes. And I think she has her own battles to fight.
So it's been a while since I have posted anything...at least anything of quality. And there are a number of reasons for that.
Studies. Family staying with us. Corona Virus outbreak. Lack of time to compose something to my standards, just being lazy. I guess any of those could have been a topic but yeah.
I have been commenting on other people's posts and replying to messages and comments on my own pics when I am able to. I'm only human though. I try my best so please understand if I don't get to the replies right away.
Anyway, just feeling a bit narcissistic today, and why not? It's my birthday (18th Feb). So I just thought I'd post a pic or two so you all still remember I'm around.
I normally don't care too much about my birthday, but being stuck at home for the past two months is a bit annoying and I feel like a bit of a pick me up.
Also there hasn't been anything here for a while. So just keeping post going.
@Gillian Hi Gillian, I finally did one of the pictures on FaceApp. I had to show you because I think it came out pretty good. Hope you are having a great day.
@ReneeT that's awesome and you look fab! It's a fun app isn't it? I've combined it with a Chinese app too with a lot more filters. I've done quite a few pics and hope to share a few more sometime. Looking forward to seeing more from you too!
Just a very quick message and one of my rare posts. But it's Christmas I guess. I'm not celebrating this year but thought I'd share and old pic for my fans and friends.
@BizSuitStacy very Asian, meaning they like to cover up and not expose themselves to harsh weather conditions that could hurt their skin, but still try to be cute and fashionable. Lol. But yeah still thinking about it. Plus side is that the pantyhose are quick and easy to wear.
Felt like bumping this post from November to the top again. It kinda died down after the initial boom but I've been thinking about it lately again. Also, I'm really not going to have much time to myself for a while now so just felt like getting the spotlight again for a bit while I can.
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Okay, going to be a little narcissistic here, but hey! I think I should be allowed to do that every once in a while lol. I couldn't really find a better word for it. Selfish? Conceited? Self-centered? None of them sound quite right.
Anyway, as many of you know, I'm not on here as much as I'd like to be, for my own personal reasons. But when I am on, I like to make my presence felt.
You also know that I am an EP refugee. I was pretty popular back then and did have a huge following (I just checked again and it looks like I had over 10k views no my profile...noooot so many here hehe). Not so much here but my reasons for being on now are a little different. I think I use my voice more and try to be an ambassador now more than anything else. I do miss the attention I had though.
Having said that, I came across some old pics. Well...from 2011 or so. They're a little different to the ones I have now. Maybe not as pro, but I guess still in the same style. Would anyone like to see a throwback series from me? Apart from the semi-regular pics I post.
I just thought I'd ask here because believe it or not, I don't really have too many followers here. Pics and stories I post often go unnoticed except for my dedicated fans (stalkers) and random people who just happen to be in the wrong place at the right time.
So if anyone is interested, then let me know. I think I said I'd do it if I got 10 "Hell Yeah!"s. lol. I think we got to 8 last time. These votes still stand.
Hi everyone. Most of you have seen me on here. I started to dress in my mom's and sisters clothes when I was in my teens. With four sisters, there were too many beautiful things to try. Now I have my own wardrobe and love to add to it.
@silkydrawers well it sounds like he reacted very positively about it so maybe he just told his mother that he accidentally grabbed the wrong bag and that was that , who knows hun yea don’t feel like it’s sinething you have to do or anything and definitely don’t start drinking again over it , it’s not worth risking your sobriety over for sure , stay high on heels my friend.
This dress is not something that is considered 'typically feminine'. Every region has their own style though, and I think a lot of western countries would consider this just a big hoody to lounge around in. But it's a style in some places here and they've taken it to a new level. Anything can look attractive if you're comfortable with it and you wear it with confidence. Things really don't have to be skin tight to look good. I don't really think it will work anywhere else but Asia. They have a very unique fashion sense here.
Number 6 of 8. Supplementary pics (extra pics from the same set). A throwback series of some old pics.Some of the only ones I have left. These were taken back around 2014. I really loved the red-soled strappy heels I had then. The black, asymmetrical-mini dress with my infamous (and shameless) leg shots lol. "Hey, why not?" as I said in another post. Also visible is the pink bra strap of a lingerie set I had back then.
Also below is another picture. I don't do a lot of these shots and I never did. For me, it was always about putting outfits together and not about showing off, as you've read in my stories and posts but I just thought it was nice to share something different too.
So as promised after receiving ten votes, I'm going to be posting a pic a day for a week.
I think I looked a bit different five years ago just because work for the past two years really gave me some tone and definition (but in a good and healthy way).
@silkydrawers I'm not sure really. I mean I've had long hair and earrings and wear tight clothing and have for a very long time. My likes have never been male and I am the person in the family that does all the cooking and cleaning etc. I just think it's personality in the end and I don't know if anyone's questioned my femininity because of that.
Straps galore! I got them thinking it was one of those extreme fetish heels with which you're pretty much just on your toes, so I was a bit disappointed when I actually got them, but now that I've worn them, they sure ar very high anyway, so I'm happy again 🤪.
Once I bought a bunch of stuff from there including glassware and I totaled everything up on my phone calculator and when they rung it up I paid and left the store and as I was walking out the door I figured something didn’t sound right with the amount it was to low so I went through my bag and check everything against the receipt and discover that there was two $1 glassware items they didn’t charge me for so I went back into the store and told them what had happened and even showed them the receipt to double check it and they seen what the mistake was and I paid the two more dollars and they said wow I can’t believe you were so honest as to let us know about this most people would’ve just let it go , I told them well I’m not a dishonest person even if it’s in my favor , the cashier called the manager and she came out and said thank you so much sir for being so honest and she gave me a $5 store credit voucher , it just goes to show how honesty really is the best policy that it does pay off in the end. A $5 credit for a $2 mistake in my favor eneded up $5 in my favor I’d say that’s a pretty good policy.
One big rule I have about posting my pictures on here is that I never fully show my face. Sure I will post pics of my lips or eyes occasionally but never a complete picture, much to the surprise of many people on here. I know many of you have a similar stance, and that this is a personal choice and one purely based on privacy. I really do wish I could show myself sometimes but that's the way it is.
Anyway, I have also been told that I am passable as a woman, and to some extent, I agree, but then that's really up to the viewer. There are times I think I look nice and other times I think I look horrid and wonder why I don't delete the pics. Of course, this is social media and we only post the best ones.
I have always liked the way my body looks, well...that's not entirely correct... I was a little chubby in school. But I did take measures to end up looking the way I do now. And yeah, sometimes I do promote my legs too often on here lol. MY face and hair don't need much work, luckily.
Also, being in my position, and everyone knowing who Gillian really is and what my character is like, you have always known me as a genuine, strong, and highly opinionated women who stands up for herself. That T next to my name or CD or whatever it is not really an accurate indication of my character or personality and even less so of my values, likes and reasons. I have posted so often about all this so I'm not getting into it here.
I wish I could post a full picture of myself but that just won't happen in this lifetime. Having said that, the pictures I post are also very distinct. They are more of a fashion shoot, modelling clothes, rather than showing myself trying to be something I am not. They are not about any obsession or fetish. They are not looking for comments and reactions. They are just me.
To get to the point, I recently discovered FaceApp. Another user was using it and I've always loved how technology has advanced and amazed at what we can do in the palm of our hands now. There have been apps before but I really like this one and I must say, it has kept me distracted for the past week. I can't say it will work for everyone but it does for me and it allows me to change my appearance just enough so I can post a full picture. It still looks like me but also changes my face enough so it doesn't look like me if that makes sense.
So here, for the first time, is a pic of Gillian. I posted one with the head cut off in my last entry, but here is a full version. This is how I would sort of look as a woman.
I have made a number of different pics with the app too so maybe I'll share a few later, depending on how this one is received lol. Be kind.
My first post got me started on this and I think it's fun to look back and see how things have changed. Obviously I'm 8 years older and have a hyper four-year old girl. Been at home for a year. So I feel really old lol. Luckily my body has not changed as much.
I think back in 2012, when I had more opportunities, I really was at my most feminine. There was a period when I was on EP and had these amazing photo shoots. And to this day, many of them are amongst my favourite pics.
My hair is short now and my recent pics have been edited with FaceApp and Meitu so that I can post full pics with a head. It still looks like me but obviously changed just enough so people won't recognise me. However, it does give a more complete picture of Gillian.
Anyway, here's a then and now pic with one of my favourite outfits with different heels and fishnets.
@silkydrawers yeah nice to be thin actually. I'm a lot taller than my wife but a lot thinner. Also she prefers loose-fitting clothes. So it just works out being a nice fit for me.
And yeah I've also been told that it feels like talking to a real girl when people talk to me but I think the pictures help a lot too. However, I also think my personality is the same and doesn't change no matter how I'm dressed. I've never been a girly-girl nor have I been a guy-guy. The way I am here is how I am in normal life too
@silkydrawers I can't imagine using anything but a phone these days. Especially with my new one. I had to get one at the beginning of the year. And it's got a really good camera and huge storage.
Amazing how just painting one nail gives off a totally different feeling. I usually wear a lot of jewellery for a guy but the glittery pink just changes it completely. Not really acceptable here but I can just blame it on the little one.
@Highonheels lol I know. You can call me whatever you want sweetie. Those were really nice titles though. As you know, I think I only really have an issue with one title.
Finally done with some of my studies and had a free morning, so it was straight to the wardrobe for my favourite black mini, a see-thru black mesh top and some new strappy heels. It's nice to know that after months of cheap canteen food and going out to eat a lot hasn't taken a toll. I suppose I did start running again though.
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It's a rare moment for me again and it's both nice and sad to see that not much has changed here. I do see some new people though and that's always good. There are so many things I wanted to reply to or comment on but as it goes, I have to be very selective with my limited time. So please do not take any offense if I have not responded. My time on here is really tight. I will get through what I can if I am able to.
In the meantime, just a couple pics from Gillian with love.
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with the obligatory leg pics. I hope I am still within the guidelines @Highonheels
Happy New Year to everyone. 2021 is already off to a great start but lets not go there. Hope everyone is keeping well despite everything going on in the world.
Anyway, just posting the extra picture from the 8-year challenge thing I did a couple weeks ago. (Scroll down for the first post and pic).
Number 3 of 8. A throwback series of some old pics.Some of the only ones I have left. These were taken back around 2014. I really loved the red-soled strappy heels I had then. An elegant black evening dress.
So as promised after receiving ten votes, I'm going to be posting a pic a day for a week.
I think I looked a bit different five years ago just because work for the past two years really gave me some tone and definition (but in a good and healthy way).
So as studies have started and more so next week, I will not be as active on here as I used to be. Not that I was very active in recent times anyway. I do pop in and give my two cents when the need arises though. I'll be around to check messages and reply if possible. That is difficult for me too but I'll do my best. I'll also comment on a post if I can.
I haven't had a moment to myself for months now and it will be even more hectic soon. I do have a few pics in reserve though. It's always good to have those in case anyone forgets me. And as I did on EP, I'll pop by and post one every now and then when you least expect it.
So here's a pic for my birthday as well. You all be good. These eyes are always watching.
Gillian
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Nice for a late autumn/early spring outfit. Grey long sleeve sweater dress with black booties. Lots of supplementary pics to follow.
@Fordman64 thanks very much. And it's tough. Feeling overwhelmed because I've never studied at this level before and it's also been a very long time since I have studied.
Thank you @ReneeT for reminding me of something and it prompted this post.
She replied to my previous post with, "Love the whole outfit Gillian. Do you go shopping at a store for all of it or is it online? You match up outfits nicely."
This just got me thinking about everything. If you haven't read my FAQ, I mentioned that most of the clothes in my pics belong to my SO. I am lucky that I am able to fit into them, even though I'm a little taller and thinner. She also prefers her clothes to be a little bigger, so I guess that's why they fit me.
There are some items of clothing that I do have even though I have to keep them hidden, including shoes, hosiery and lingerie. I have to keep it at a minimum despite the urge to buy more things. I wear ladies skinny jeans and jackets, so those are mine. And I don't mind shopping in the ladies section for those.
As far as putting outfits together, that is always something I have loved. If you know me, I prefer to dress conservatively/tastefully, rather than try to show off or try too hard. My sessions are more about just dressing normally (if I were given the opportunity). I just dress the way I think it suits me, rather than trying to be a 'CD/trans/etc'. It is more about being natural.
My/our wardrobe is pretty limited these days so I have to make do with what I have. And I mix and match where I can. It was very different when I was younger though, I'm talking from the ages of 7-18 when All I had were my mom's old stuff and obviously my big boy clothes. So what does anyone do in that situation? I made my own clothes. I cut my jeans and sewed them in order to make denim skirts. I cut up old t-shirts in order to make tank tops. I made pants into elegant formal skirts. I took in extra large shirts and tops in order to make bodycon dresses. A favourite thing to do was to take pairs of pantyhose and make them into thigh high stockings. Yeah I taught myself to sew and I was and am pretty good at it actually.
Just some history for you. 😄 And here's a recent picture too. I took a long even skirt with a slit and made it into a cute little black cocktail dress (no sewing or altering either).
@automx03 Girl, I envy you so much ! You look so great when you dress up, and you have other cross dressers to share your cross dressing with !! Just once I'd like 🤭👗to help another cross dresser get all dressed up and she would help me to look pretty also...
I’m posting my profile photo, I wonder if others would too. I’m on an iPhone and only ever get to see a minute image when checking them out. I hope I’m not out of line, doing this. 💋
Sorry I haven't been very active on here lately but at least I am still here on SW waiting and hoping things will get better , I know a lot of people have left the site all together but I chose to stick around at least for awhile longer , I'm just not as active as I use to be that's all
